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Caitlyn Oscarson: Now a Certified Cognitive Therapist

CBT Center’s Newest Certified Cognitive Therapist

Caitlyn ACT CertificateCaitlyn Oscarson, LMFT, staff therapist at the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center, recently became certified by the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. This is a huge accomplishment and very few therapists are certified. It requires submitting your credentials, training and experience in CBT, completing a detailed CBT case conceptualization, and submitting an audiotape of an actual session with a real client demonstrating 11 competencies in cognitive behavior therapy.

Cognitive Behavior Therapy Competencies

The 11 competencies include:

  1. Agenda Setting
  2. Feedback
  3. Understanding
  4. Interpersonal Effectiveness
  5. Collaboration
  6. Pacing and Efficient Use of Time
  7. Guided Discovery
  8. Focusing on Key Cognitions or Behaviors
  9. Strategy for Change
  10. Application of Cognitive-Behavioral Techniques
  11. Homework

Our Certified Cognitive Therapists

The Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley and Sacramento Valley now has three certified cognitive therapists with the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. We are unique in being the only CBT Center in the Silicon Valley and Sacramento Valley with more than one certified cognitive therapist. In fact, most therapists who say they practice CBT are not certified by the Academy of Cognitive Therapy because it requires a big time and training commitment to learn how to provide true evidence-based CBT according to the Academy’s criteria for CBT excellence.

About the Academy of Cognitive Therapy

The Academy of Cognitive Therapy is the only certifying organization for cognitive-behavioral therapy. In order to meet the Academy’s standards for CBT excellence, therapists must have the necessary training, experience, and knowledge to be highly effective cognitive-behavioral therapists and have demonstrated an advanced level of expertise in cognitive behavior therapy by submitting and achieving passing scores on both a case conceptualization and an audiotaped session with a real patient.

How To Make an Appointment at the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center

The Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley (San Jose/Saratoga) and Sacramento Valley (Roseville) specializes in anxiety therapy and counseling with adults, children and teenagers. Call us in Saratoga at (408) 384-8404 or in Roseville at (916) 778-0771 or Click to send an email for more information on how we can help you or your family members overcome your anxiety-related disorders.

Silicon Valley and Sacramento Valley Communities We Serve

Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley offers evidence-based therapy for Anxiety, OCD and Eating Disorders near the following Silicon Valley/San Jose communities:

San Jose Therapy CounselingSaratoga Therapy CounselingLos Gatos Therapy Counseling Monte Sereno Therapy Counseling • Cupertino Therapy CounselingCampbell Therapy CounselingMountain View Therapy CounselingLos Altos Therapy CounselingSunnyvale Therapy CounselingSanta Clara Therapy Counseling

Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Sacramento Valley offers evidence-based therapy for Anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and Eating Disorders near the following Sacramento Valley and Sierra communities:

Sacramento Therapy CounselingRoseville Therapy Counseling • Rocklin Therapy Counseling • Granite Bay Therapy Counseling • Lincoln Therapy CounselingFolsom Therapy Counseling • Citrus Heights Therapy Counseling •  El Dorado Hills Therapy Counseling • Loomis Therapy CounselingGrass Valley Therapy Counseling  • Auburn Therapy Counseling

CONTACT US
Saratoga: (408) 384-8404
Roseville: (916) 778-0771
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The Boy Whose Dreams Came True

Here’s a letter one of male teen clients wrote after successful completion of cognitive behavior therapy. It’s a very motivating letter for all ages even adults!

Dear Self,

The engine of my car rumbled when I came here, but the funny thing was that I didn’t even know where I was going. Then my parents said “Remember those scary pictures the kids showed you and you were very scared about that?” and I said “Yeah…” Then they said “we’re going to do something about that so we’re going to take you to a therapist to deal with that and not be scared about them anymore.”

I had a lot of fears about looking at the pictures because if my parents said I was scared, I knew at some point I’d see those pictures again. I thought Saryna would be very mean, and I didn’t want to have to be one of those people lying down on the couch just talking. I was totally unready at first. I just didn’t want to be here when we started talking. Once we came up with the hierarchy list, I was completely not ready for doing anything on that list. For the first few times we did the hierarchy, I thought I could do them, but I knew I couldn’t do anything above a level 5. Especially with a level 10, I would have run away. But the third time I was here, we already started and I said “It was no big deal” afterwards. After that, I knew I could definitely get through all of these. If I were to do the highest thing on the hierarchy list then, I would have never came back here again. Currently, I am 11 years old and I can look at one of the scariest pictures in the world.

“Just do it. Don’t let your dreams be dreams. Just do it.”
This is the quote you should think about when something that you have great anxiety around happens.

The practices here were like the practices I did for the multiplication test I had in 3rd grade. I was practicing my multiplication tables with my mom every day. The day I took the test, I got a really good score – almost 100%. This reminds me of now and the whole year I was here. At the beginning, I was so scared to see the pictures. Now, it’s like the day I took the test. I may have a little anxiety when I see the pictures, but I can do it easily.

I learned that sometimes I go turtle speed and sometimes I go rabbit speed. Just like a band aid, if you go really slow to take it off, it’s really painful. But if you go really fast, it hurts too. If you go at the right speed, it doesn’t hurt as much. I realized this is my own speed. It’s my speed that helps me do things and doesn’t make me scared.

My fear was that I couldn’t handle myself in the dark, and I was constantly waking up and going to my parents’ bed. It has probably been a year and when I compare my new self with my old self, you can see a huge difference in my levels of anxiety.

There were two ways I realized my brain was tricking me. Recently, I have had many bloody noses in the middle of the night and whenever I had them I would usually depend on my parents to stop the bleeding and take care of it, and then I would go to their bed because I was awake and scared. But the latest one I’ve had was a very surprising experience because I handled the bleeding and my nose all by myself, and once I was done, I realized I didn’t need my parents to do it.
My brain was tricking me about that. I was really proud of myself after that happened because my brain would trick me all the time. Another reason why I learned my brain was tricking me, each time we looked at a cut up picture of the characters I was scared of, I realized I was willing to bring it closer to me. From that, I realized my brain was tricking me to be constantly cautious without being willing to try anything uncertain.

So that’s why I have created a character of my own called Mr. Muntz. Mr. Muntz helped me realize every time my brain kept saying “no you can’t do this!” That’s what Mr. Muntz would be saying. So to prevent that from happening, I created another character called Homeyeggagetasaurous Rex. Homeyeggagetasaurous Rex was a combined character of all of my favorite people and fantasy and real life. When I thought of Homeyeggagetasaurous Rex, it helped me realize that I can conquer whatever Mr. Muntz told me because the reckless dinosaur I created helped me think of a silly, cool, and strong personality of myself and I wouldn’t need to worry about anything that I’ve done or will be doing that would make me feel scared and have a really high anxiety level.

So as you can see, you can always try even if you’re scared of doing it. As I said, you should listen to the quote “Just do it. Don’t let your dreams be dreams. Just do it.” so that you can focus on the happy time and not let your worries control you.

Sincerely,
The Boy Whose Dreams Came True

Does Halloween Make You Want to Hide?

Halloween’s Growing Popularity Can Lead to Social Anxiety

Halloween Yorkie Social AnxietyHalloween used to be primarily a kid’s holiday. In recent years, Halloween has transformed from a kid-centric holiday into an $8 billion a year industry for everyone. Two in three adults believe Halloween is a holiday for them and not just kids. Many companies allow, and even encourage employees to wear costumes. Halloween’s creep also extends to pets. Americans will spend $370 million on pet costumes this year, with pumpkin (13%), devil (7%), and hot dog (6%) among the most popular. Halloween is now the second-biggest decorating holiday of the year — right behind Christmas.

Common Worries About Halloween

All this pressure to celebrate Halloween can make some folks downright anxious, especially if you suffer from social anxiety. Besides the fear of ghosts, witches and goblins, adults with social anxiety may suffer from other fears such as:

  • Worry and indecision about whether to wear a costume and, if so, what to dress up as
  • Fear of being judged for the type of costume you choose
  • Depression about not being invited to a Halloween party and thinking that everyone else is having fun except you
  • Social awkwardness if you do go to a Halloween party, such as not knowing what to say, being uncomfortable with small talk or comparing your costume to others
  • Anxiety about opening the door for trick-r-treaters and having to interact with neighbors and strangers

Easing Your Social Anxiety About Halloween

Halloween Ghosts Social AnxietySo what can you do this year to help ease the Halloween jitters?

First, remember Halloween is about fun. No one really cares what you dress up as. Most people are more focused on showing off their own costume than what you are wearing. Since everyone is so focused on their own costumes and being spooky and silly, they are less likely to care whether you talk or what you say anyway.

Second, remember many people enjoy staying home and watching scary movies on Halloween or just doing nothing and relaxing. Take the pressure off yourself if you do end up spending the evening alone. Plan some fun and enjoyable activities for yourself.

Third, if you stay home and don’t feel like opening the door, you can leave a bowl of Halloween candy on your doorstep with a friendly message so your neighbors know you care. Or you can push yourself to face your anxiety, open the door, and hand out candy. You can say “trick-r-treat” and smile. Or just make a pleasant comment about the kids’ and adults’ costumes.

How to Get Help for Social Anxiety in San Jose/Saratoga and Sacramento/Roseville

The Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center in Silicon Valley and Sacramento Valley specializes in social anxiety therapy and counseling with adults, children and teenagers. Call us in Saratoga at (408) 384-8404 or in Roseville at (916) 778-0771 or Click to send an email for more information on how we can help you or your family members overcome your social anxiety.

Silicon Valley and Sacramento Valley Communities We Serve

Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley offers evidence-based therapy for Anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and Eating Disorders near the following Silicon Valley/San Jose communities:

San Jose Therapy CounselingSaratoga Therapy CounselingLos Gatos Therapy Counseling Monte Sereno Therapy Counseling • Cupertino Therapy CounselingCampbell Therapy CounselingMountain View Therapy CounselingLos Altos Therapy CounselingSunnyvale Therapy CounselingSanta Clara Therapy Counseling

Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Sacramento Valley offers evidence-based therapy for Anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and Eating Disorders near the following Sacramento Valley and Sierra communities:

Sacramento Therapy CounselingRoseville Therapy Counseling • Rocklin Therapy Counseling • Granite Bay Therapy Counseling • Lincoln Therapy CounselingFolsom Therapy Counseling • Citrus Heights Therapy Counseling •  El Dorado Hills Therapy Counseling • Loomis Therapy CounselingGrass Valley Therapy Counseling  • Auburn Therapy Counseling

CONTACT US
Saratoga: (408) 384-8404
Roseville: (916) 778-0771
Click to send an email

Erica Russell: Certified Cognitive Therapist

Erica CBT Certified TherapistCBT Center’s Newest Certified Cognitive Therapist

Erica Russell, LPCC, LMFT, staff therapist at the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center, recently became certified by the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. This is a huge accomplishment and very few therapists are certified. It requires submitting your credentials, training and experience in CBT, completing a detailed CBT case conceptualization, and submitting an audiotape of an actual session with a real client demonstrating 11 competencies in cognitive behavior therapy.

Cognitive Behavior Therapy Competencies

The 11 competencies include:

  1. Agenda Setting
  2. Feedback
  3. Understanding
  4. Interpersonal Effectiveness
  5. Collaboration
  6. Pacing and Efficient Use of Time
  7. Guided Discovery
  8. Focusing on Key Cognitions or Behaviors
  9. Strategy for Change
  10. Application of Cognitive-Behavioral Techniques
  11. Homework

Our Certified Cognitive Therapists

The Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley and Sacramento Valley now has two certified cognitive therapists with the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. We are unique in being the only CBT Center in the Silicon Valley and Sacramento Valley with more than one certified cognitive therapist. In fact, most therapists who say they practice CBT are not certified by the Academy of Cognitive Therapy because it requires a big time and training commitment to learn how to provide true evidence-based CBT according to the Academy’s criteria for CBT excellence.

About the Academy of Cognitive Therapy

The Academy of Cognitive Therapy is the only certifying organization for cognitive-behavioral therapy. In order to meet the Academy’s standards for CBT excellence, therapists must have the necessary training, experience, and knowledge to be highly effective cognitive-behavioral therapists and have demonstrated an advanced level of expertise in cognitive behavior therapy by submitting and achieving passing scores on both a case conceptualization and an audiotaped session with a real patient.

How To Make an Appointment at the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center

The Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley (San Jose/Saratoga) and Sacramento Valley (Roseville) specializes in anxiety therapy and counseling with adults, children and teenagers. Call us in Saratoga at (408) 384-8404 or in Roseville at (916) 778-0771 or Click to send an email for more information on how we can help you or your family members overcome your anxiety-related disorders.

Silicon Valley and Sacramento Valley Communities We Serve

Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley offers evidence-based therapy for Anxiety, OCD and Eating Disorders near the following Silicon Valley/San Jose communities:

San Jose Therapy CounselingSaratoga Therapy CounselingLos Gatos Therapy Counseling Monte Sereno Therapy Counseling • Cupertino Therapy CounselingCampbell Therapy CounselingMountain View Therapy CounselingLos Altos Therapy CounselingSunnyvale Therapy CounselingSanta Clara Therapy Counseling

Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Sacramento Valley offers evidence-based therapy for Anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and Eating Disorders near the following Sacramento Valley and Sierra communities:

Sacramento Therapy CounselingRoseville Therapy Counseling • Rocklin Therapy Counseling • Granite Bay Therapy Counseling • Lincoln Therapy CounselingFolsom Therapy Counseling • Citrus Heights Therapy Counseling •  El Dorado Hills Therapy Counseling • Loomis Therapy CounselingGrass Valley Therapy Counseling  • Auburn Therapy Counseling

CONTACT US
Saratoga: (408) 384-8404
Roseville: (916) 778-0771
Click to send an email

Melissa Gould: Reflections on Motherhood

Melissa 2015-06-14 (1)Now that my son, Forrest, is 5 months old, I’m just barely beginning to get a bit of perspective on life as a new parent. While I don’t have anything novel to say that someone hasn’t said before, I’ve been most surprised not by the profound but by the profoundly small everyday insights. Growing up around children and having a large extended family, I’ve done my fair share of watching wee ones grow and thrive. And one thing I became aware of only when I had my own child and began watching other parents around me is that we’re always growing and adapting to the needs of our children. Life is not static; we’re all clueless and fumbling our ways through from time to time, too, which is strangely reassuring.

I recently listened to author Jennifer Senior discussing her book “All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood.” I remember thinking, “wait – this isn’t going to be fun?” And now I’m beginning to understand what she means. Because truth be told, many parts of day-to-day parenting are no fun. Sleepless nights are clearly no fun. Clipping a newborn’s cuticle and holding him while he wails in pain is no fun. Yet there’s so much joy in it all. His laugh; his hugs; the way a smile grows bigger on his face as he recognizes it’s me. Life feels a bit richer these days!

Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center Retreat 2015

A Fun Day in Nature in Carmel Valley

Trail Riding 5-17-15On Sunday, May 17, the Cognitive Behavior Therapy  Center of Silicon Valley employees and their family members spend the day in the very special nature retreat in the Santa Lucia Preserve. As a team, we enjoyed breakfast in the Hacienda, a hike on the Williams Canyon trail, a picnic by the lake and horseback riding on Garzas trail. As the Founder and Center Director of the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center, I felt so proud of the personal connections the therapist have made with each other. We call ourselves a “no drama” team because we all get along so well and, when there are issues, we speak honestly and directly to resolve issues so they don’t linger and cause resentment. I asked my team members to tell me what they found most meaningful about their day at the Preserve retreat. Below you can read what they said.

Some Quotes from Our Therapists about their Experience

Preserve Group Photo 5-17-15“It was so wonderful to spend the day at with my family and coworkers at such a beautiful place. I definitely feel like I got to see a “hidden gem” of the central coast. I loved that we got to do something we do as a family frequently (hiking) as well as something I haven’t done in many many years (horseback riding). The horseback riding was a little out of my comfort zone but turned out to be so fun. Since it was new to most of us I feel like we all got the hang of it together which was really neat.” – Caitlyn Oscarson

“The retreat allowed me the opportunity to get to know the CBT Center staff in a beautiful, relaxed setting. Every day I go into work, I see firsthand the compassion and dedication the therapists show each of their clients. Through the retreat’s various adventures – hiking, picnicking, and horseback riding – I saw that these characteristics extend far beyond the walls of their offices, not only in their individual personalities, but in their relationships with one another. I look forward to our next outing!” – Laura Belknap

“Having never tried horseback riding before, I was a little anxious, but I got to experience firsthand what my clients experience during exposure. By the end of the ride, my anxiety had dropped way down and riding the horse ended up being my favorite part of the retreat!” -Erica Russell

“Our day at the Preserve was an opportunity to spend time with colleagues and family outside of the office. We have a unique professional environment at the CBT Center where we can challenge each other to grow professionally while also genuinely enjoying each other’s company personally. One of the highlights for me was seeing the impact of restricting public access to a large piece of land. The wildlife had less fear of humans and you could see trees and lush green open spaces for as far as the eye could see. We don’t often think about what a place might look like if preserved in this way, so I found this notably eye-opening.” – Melissa Gould

“I always find it to be very meaningful for me to feel connected with nature, yet I found it most meaningful to become more connected with the CBT team through the shared experiences and getting to meet one another’s loved ones. I think it was a helpful and healthy reminder for me to not get swallowed up by my daily tasks, and to appreciate others’ company and acknowledge my own value of connectedness and need for self-care.” – Saryna Konczey

How to Get Help for Anxiety in San Jose/Saratoga and Sacramento/Roseville

The Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley (San Jose/Saratoga) and Sacramento Valley (Roseville) specializes in anxiety therapy and counseling with adults, children and teenagers. Call (408) 384-8404 or Click to send an email for more information on how we can help you or your family members overcome your anxiety-related disorders.

Silicon Valley and Sacramento Valley Communities We Serve

Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley offers evidence-based therapy for Anxiety, OCD and Eating Disorders near the following Silicon Valley/San Jose communities:

San Jose Therapy CounselingSaratoga Therapy CounselingLos Gatos Therapy Counseling Monte Sereno Therapy Counseling • Cupertino Therapy CounselingCampbell Therapy CounselingMountain View Therapy CounselingLos Altos Therapy CounselingSunnyvale Therapy CounselingSanta Clara Therapy Counseling

Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Sacramento Valley offers evidence-based therapy for Anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and Eating Disorders near the following Sacramento Valley and Sierra communities:

Sacramento Therapy CounselingRoseville Therapy Counseling • Rocklin Therapy Counseling • Granite Bay Therapy Counseling • Lincoln Therapy CounselingFolsom Therapy Counseling • Citrus Heights Therapy Counseling •  El Dorado Hills Therapy Counseling • Loomis Therapy CounselingGrass Valley Therapy Counseling  • Auburn Therapy Counseling

CONTACT US
Call (408) 384-8404 or Click to send an email

Impostor Syndrome: Are You Discounting Yourself and Your Successes?

In the Boston Globe, I read that four smart and talented students at MIT committed suicide within the past year. Among its efforts to help students cope with stress, MIT is encouraging students to talk about the psychological phenomenon called “impostor syndrome,” the feeling of being a failure despite a record of accomplishment.

What is Impostor Syndrome?

Imposter Syndrome MouseImpostor syndrome is common among high achievers, many of whom discount their successes. As a result, they do not feel confident or deserving inside of themselves even though they are objectively successful and perceived as such by other people. Psychological research done in the early 1980s estimated that two out of five successful people consider themselves impostors and other studies have found that 70 percent of all people feel like impostors at one time or another.

The impostor’s thoughts and feelings can be divided into several categories:

1. Feeling like a fake: You may believe that you do not deserve your success, academic standing or professional position. This is accompanied by a fear of being “found out”, “discovered” or “unmasked.” If you feel this way, you might identify with statements such as: “I have tricked other people into thinking that I am more competent than I really am” or “I am often afraid that others will discover I don’t really know what I am doing.”

2. Attributing success to luck: Another aspect of the impostor syndrome is the tendency to attribute success to luck or to other external reasons and not to your own internal abilities. You may refer to an achievement by saying, “I just got lucky this time” or “it was a fluke” and worry you will not be able to succeed next time. You may think you are just lucky, in the right place at the right time, and that’s why you were chosen for a particular job or role.

3. Discounting Success: The third aspect is a tendency to downplay success and discount it. You may discount an achievement by saying “it is not a big deal” or “it was not important.” For example, a student attending a prestigious university may discount the fact that they were accepted or feel like it was a mistake that they were accepted and that they don’t belong or they aren’t as smart as the other students. Or you may say “I did well because it is an easy class” or “I was promoted because my manager left” instead of attributing it to hard work or intelligence. You may also discount your accomplishments and have a hard time accepting compliments.

4. Dwelling on the Negative: You may notice every time where you think you should have done better or where you made a mistake. On the other hand, you overemphasize minor flaws in your performance. You fail to notice, or fail to put enough importance, on what you did well.

5. Unfair Comparisons: You compare yourself unfavorably to others. Frequently you pick out the most outstanding people in your school, company or field and judge your own performance as inadequate and inferior.

Women and Impostor Syndrome

Imposter Syndrome MaskThe term “impostor syndrome” first appeared in an article written by Pauline R. Clance and Suzanne A. Imes in the 1970s. They observed that many high-achieving women tended to believe they were not intelligent, and that they neither internalized nor accepted their own accomplishments. These individuals attributed their successes to luck rather than skill or talent, and were afraid others would realize they’d been deceived by a fraud.

While both men and women experience impostor syndrome, studies show that women are more often affected. According to Valerie Young, author of The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women, boys are raised to bluff and exaggerate. Girls, on the other hand, learn early to distrust their opinions and stifle their voices. Young women learn that they tend to be judged by the highest physical, behavioral and intellectual standards. Perfection becomes the goal, and every flaw, mistake or criticism is internalized—slowly reducing self-confidence.

“A real bias against female competence persists,” says Young. “Being female means you and your work automatically stand a greater chance of being ignored, discounted, trivialized, devalued or otherwise taken less seriously than a man’s.”

Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook, spoke of her own feelings of insecurity in her best-selling book, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead. When Sandberg attended her Phi Beta Kappa induction at Harvard, a woman gave a speech called “Feeling Like a Fraud.” During the talk, Sandberg looked around the room and saw people nodding. “I thought it was the best speech I’d ever heard,” she recalls. “I felt like that (an impostor) my whole life.” At school, Sandberg thought, “I really fooled them.”

Sandberg says, “Many people, but especially women, feel fraudulent when they are praised for their accomplishments. Instead of feeling worthy of recognition, they feel undeserving and guilty, as if a mistake has been made. Despite being high achievers, even experts in their fields, women can’t seem to shake the sense that it is only a matter of time until they are found out for who they really are – impostors with limited skills or abilities.”

Originally thought to be more common among women, men, too, can be victims of the imposter style of thinking. Even Albert Einstein suffered from impostor syndrome near the end of his life. A month before his death, he reportedly confided in a friend: “the exaggerated esteem in which my lifework is held makes me very ill at ease. I feel compelled to think of myself as an involuntary swindler.”

Do I have Impostor Syndrome?

Imposter Syndrome DogDr. Valerie Young developed the Impostor Syndrome Quiz (reprinted below). If you answer yes to many of these questions, you may have impostor syndrome:

  • Do you secretly worry that others will find out that you’re not as bright and capable as they think you are?
  • Do you sometimes shy away from challenges because of nagging self-doubt?
  • Do you tend to chalk your accomplishments up to being a “fluke,” “no big deal” or the fact that people just “like” you?
  • Do you hate making a mistake, being less than fully prepared or not doing things perfectly?
  • Do you tend to feel crushed by even constructive criticism, seeing it as evidence of your “ineptness?”
  • When you do succeed, do you think, “Phew, I fooled ‘em this time but I may not be so lucky next time.”
  • Do you believe that other people (students, colleagues, competitors) are smarter and more capable than you are?
  • Do you live in fear of being found out, discovered, unmasked?

Strategies for Overcoming Impostor Syndrome

1) Become aware of your thoughts. Automatic thoughts can be defined as underlying, unquestioned thoughts, which affect how you perceive an event or situation. Realize them for what they are: negative self-talk that has become a habit. Be aware when you engage in thoughts and feelings of an impostor. Awareness is the first step to change and many times we are not aware of our automatic thoughts.

2) Do a reality check. Question your automatic “impostor” thoughts and feelings and try to come up with more balanced thoughts. Understand the difference between your negative thoughts and reality. Identify the critical voice that is doubting your authenticity. It’s not You. Separate yourself from the critical and self-limiting “impostor” voice.

3) Understand the difference between feelings and reality. Some people believe that if they feel something strongly it must be right. “If I feel so stupid, it must mean that I really am stupid.” When you catch yourself thinking in this way, change it to a coping statement of “the fact that I feel stupid does not mean that I really am. It’s a feeling and not reality.”

4) Write down the steps you took to earn the success you achieved. In one column, make a list of what you accomplished on a particular task or project, and in a second column, write the names of people who helped contribute to the success. Come up with realistic responses that give you credit, but also share praise with others who contributed. For example, you could say to yourself, “I’m proud of what I did on that job, and I had the help of a great team.”

4) Replace your negative “impostor” thinking habit by practicing more realistic and helpful self-talk. Remind yourself of how you contributed to your success with thoughts like “I have proven I am capable by…” or “I prepared for this by…” Give yourself credit throughout the day for both major and minor successes. Notice and reframe “yes, but” statement such as “I brought in accounts but she brought in more” to “Even though she brought in more accounts, I brought in many myself.” Focus on your strengths. When you finish a task, you can ask yourself, “What positive qualities do I have that allowed me to do accomplish this?”

5) Be on the lookout for unhelpful coping strategies you engage in to prevent others from evaluating you negatively. For example, if you tend to hold back from sharing your opinions in meetings, take a risk and speak up in a calm and confident way.

6) Celebrate! Give yourself permission to be proud. Let your friends and family praise you. Take some of it in. Let it touch your heart. Being proud of an accomplishment is not the same as being self-centered. After you celebrate, you will probably remember that no matter what you achieved, chances are there is more to do. This can be humbling and healthy, and important to distinguish from the unhealthy internal put-downs.

7) Give yourself a little time to grow into your success, especially if success seemed to come rather easily or quickly. Sometimes you just need time for a new promotion or status to settle in so you can feel like you deserved it and earned it. However, if you think impostor syndrome is keeping you from getting the most out of your life, then you might want to find a therapist to help you work through your thoughts and feelings.

How To Get Help for Impostor Syndrome

The Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley offers counseling and therapy for women and men suffering from Impostor Syndrome. We are located in Saratoga on the border of San Jose and Saratoga just 1/2 mile from Highway 85. With our convenient location near highway 85, we serve the Silicon Valley communities of San Jose, Saratoga, Mountain View, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Los Gatos, Los Altos, Cupertino and Campbell, CA. Contact us at (408) 384-8404 for more information on how we can help you savor your accomplishments and reduce your feelings of being an impostor at school or work.

Radically-Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy (RO-DBT)

RO-DBT: Your Path to a More Flexible Life and Joyful Experiences

Flexible ThinkingLaura Johnson, LMFT, LPCC, Center Director, attended a two-day workshop on Radically-Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy (RO-DBT) led by its founder, Thomas Lynch, PhD, Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of Southampton, UK. RO-DBT is an evidence-based approach to help individuals become more flexible in their thinking and responding, more open to life experiences that create joy and happiness, and build intimacy and social connections. RO-DBT can be particularly helpful for individuals with inflexible, rigid personality styles who are susceptible to certain types of anxiety disorders, depression, OCD, perfectionism, anorexia and autism. RO-DBT includes many of the skills taught in traditional DBT but also teaches an entirely new set of skills to increase flexibility and reduce rigidity.

RO-DBT Theory

The theory behind RO-DBT is that children with an “over controlled” temperament are more likely to develop internalizing disorders such as anxiety and depression and become socially isolated as adults. “Overcontrol” is defined as an emotionally constricted, shy and risk averse temperament. In appropriate amounts, overcontrol is a positive trait. You may desire to exceed expectations and perform well, value rules and fairness, delay gratification to achieve goals, and have a high sense of duty, obligation and self-sacrifice.

On the other hand, individuals who develop a excessively overcontrolled style may have a need to appear perfect (planning ahead, being right, stressing orderliness and structure), follow rules (always doing the right thing, being prepared, smiling even when unhappy) and have high pain tolerance (able to work really hard and delay or minimize joy and fun).

Goals of RO-DBT

The goal in RO-DBT is to help individuals develop optimal control that is neither over- or under-controlled.

RO-DBT starts with defining what’s healthy and what’s not. Its interventions strive to build these positive traits including:

  • Receptivity and Openness to new experiences (as opposed to high risk aversion, hypervigilance for threat, avoidance of novelty and discounting of constructive feedback)
  • Flexible Responding to adapt to changes in the environment (instead of compulsive needs for structure and order, hyper-perfectionism, compulsive planning/rehearsal, and rigid rule-governed behavior)
  • Emotional Expression and Awareness to have genuine emotional experiences (as opposed to inhibited expressions or fake expressions and low self-awareness or minimizing of feelings)
  • Intimacy and Connection to form long-lasting bonds (instead of aloof/distant relationships, excessive social comparison, envy and bitterness, and low empathy and validation skills)

Ways to Build Flexibility, Openness and Social Connection

In addition to most of the traditional DBT skills, RO-DBT also teaches additional new skills  to build the qualities of flexibility, openness and social connection including:

Radical Oppenness Skills LegosRadical Openness Skills Module is a completely new skills module where you will learn to change your physiology, engage in new behaviors, learn from constructive feedback, validation skills, build compassion and forgiveness, stimulate positive emotions toward yourself and social connectedness with others through loving kindness meditation,verbal and non-verbal skills to signal openness and friendliness, and communication of emotions to increase social connection and reduce social isolation and loneliness.

Mindfulness Skills to recognize when you are in fixed mind vs. fatalistic mind and how to get to flexible mind and to teach self inquiry.

Emotion Regulation Skills to reduce envy, bitterness, resentment and revenge.

Some Examples of RO-DBT Skills

There are three steps involved in building the skill of Radical Openness:

  1. Acknowledge the presence of unwanted or uncomfortable feelings such as irritation, tension in the body, negative emotions or feelings of uncertainty
  2. Turn toward the discomfort and use Self-Inquiry to ask yourself, “What do I need to learn from this?” instead of automatically distracting or accepting
  3. Flexibly Respond by doing what’s needed in the moment

Practicing being open to feedback from others includes the following steps:

  1. Acknowledge the feedback
  2. Describe your emotions, sensations, thoughts and images
  3. Be Open to new information by cheerleading yourself, adopting an open body stance, and fully listening to the feedback
  4. Pinpoint what the new behavior is and confirm
  5. Try out the new behavior
  6. Self-soothe and reward yourself
How To Get Help in Building Flexibility and Other Positive Traits

The Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley specializes in helping individuals change unhelpful thinking and coping styles and build flexibility, openness and social connection. With our convenient location just a half mile from Highway 85 and the Saratoga Avenue exit, we serve the Silicon Valley communities of San Jose, Saratoga, Mountain View, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Los Gatos, Los Altos, Cupertino and Campbell, CA. We also have a CBT Online Video Therapy Program for clients in California who live to far away to drive for our specialized therapy in person. Contact us at (408) 384-8404 for more information on how we can help you manage you become more flexible, open and joyful.

OCD Exposure Tips from the Experts

By Caitlyn Oscarson, LMFT and Erica Russell, LPCC, LMFT

OCD Foundation’s Behavior Therapy Training Institute 2015

OCD BTTIFrom January 30th to February 1st, we had the pleasure of attending the International OCD Foundation’s Behavior Therapy Training Institute at UCLA. The Behavior Therapy Training Institute (BTTI) is an intensive three-day training for clinicians who are treating clients with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. As one of the most prestigious training opportunities for OCD treatment providers, limited space was available, so we both felt very lucky and honored to be in attendance. The faculty of the training included some of the nation’s most well-respected experts in OCD treatment, including Dr. Alec Pollard, Dr. Gerald Tarlow and Dr. John Piancentini. It also included special presentations on pharmacotherapy (or medical treatment) and behavioral therapy for tic disorders, by Dr. Jamie Feusner and Dr. Susanna Chang.

The training began with an overview of the assessment and diagnosis of OCD and other OC Spectrum Disorders (Hoarding Disorder, Body Dysmorphic Disorder, Trichotillomania (Hair-Pulling) Disorder and Excoriation Disorder (Skin-Picking Disorder) and then focused in more intensively on treatment approaches.

Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)

Our clients who are being treated for OCD are probably familiar with the term “exposure and response prevention” (ERP), which involves purposely exposing oneself to an obsession trigger and then preventing any compulsive behaviors or thought actions that might neutralize anxiety. One of the most helpful topics discussed at the training was the importance of approaching obsession triggers in the appropriate way during exposure and having a clear plan for response prevention. We learned that in order for exposure to be as effective as possible, clients should approach obsession triggers in a manner that eliminates all avoidance, neutralization or distraction. This means that if an individual did an exposure involving touching a doorknob, to increase the effectiveness of that exposure it would be important for the individual to not only touch the knob, but then rub his hands on his body and agree not to do any hand-washing or hand-isolating for a specified period of time. It also means that the individual would want to be sure not to have any source of distraction or reassurance that might reduce his anxiety, since experiencing the anxiety and allowing it to decline naturally is what exposure is all about.

Re-Exposure is the Key

The experts also raised the importance of finding creative ways to re-expose if anything interrupts an exposure. For example, if the client who did the doorknob exposure needed to use the restroom and thus had a legitimate reason to wash his hands, it would be important for him to re-expose himself by touching that doorknob again after washing. When doing an exposure to something outside of your home, it can also be helpful for clients with contamination OCD to carry a “contamination rag”, which is a piece of cloth that you would use to wipe whatever surface or substance to which you exposed yourself. That way, if you go home and have reason to wash your hands, you can immediately re-expose yourself to the earlier exposure by wiping the contamination rag on your hands and body.

How to Cope with Anxiety and Distress During Exposures

Another question that often comes up with our clients being treated for OCD is how to cope with the anxiety and distress that can arise during exposures. The OCD experts explained that any coping strategy that helps you engage in exposure can be helpful as long as it doesn’t promote avoidance from feared situations or get in the way of learning new things about the OCD triggers. Ideal strategies will “take the edge off” your anxiety enough to help you engage in the exposure exercise without distracting you from confronting your fears. Therefore, there are no universally “bad” or “good” types of coping strategies. Some suggested strategies such as diaphragmatic breathing and mindfulness are probably familiar to you. Another recommended strategy is to create coping statements or scripts that reflect your beliefs and values and remind you that is it okay to be uncertain. It can also be helpful to focus on all the reasons you want to work on OCD so you feel motivated to participate in exposures.

The Role of Distraction

Some clients ask if it is okay to use distraction techniques, that is, ignoring an upsetting thought, situation or trigger, and focusing your attention on something like reading, talking to a friend, doing a task around the house, watching TV etc. The experts at the BTTI emphasized that distraction won’t help you learn new ways of coping with your OCD, but it also won’t make anything worse in the meantime. So, while it would not be recommended to use distraction all the time, it can be a helpful way to cope with triggers outside of designated exposure time.

How To Get Help for OCD

The Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley specializes in Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in adults, children and teenagers. With our convenient location just a half mile from Highway 85 and the Saratoga Avenue exit, we serve the Silicon Valley communities of San Jose, Saratoga, Mountain View, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Los Gatos, Los Altos, Cupertino and Campbell, CA. We also have a CBT Online Video Therapy Program for clients in California who live to far away to drive for our specialized therapy in person. Contact us at (408) 384-8404 for more information on how we can help you manage you OCD.

Schema Therapy: Basics and Beyond

LifeI just returned from a two-day Schema Therapy Workshop at the New Jersey Institute for Schema Therapy. The training was led by Wendy Behary, the Founder and Director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The New Jersey Institute for Schema Therapy and President of the International Society of Schema Therapy. While I have been using Schema Therapy concepts with some clients already, I gained a new appreciation for the complexity, depth and effectiveness of this approach. Starting in March 2015, I am participating in the Advanced Intensive Schema Therapy Training Program. In this article, I will explain some of the basics of schema therapy. Stay tuned for a lot more to come as I work through the intensive training program and get certified!

What is Schema Therapy?

Schema Therapy is an evidence-based approach for long lasting change in the personality dynamics that impact chronic emotional and relationship problems. Schema Therapy was developed by Jeffrey Young while he was at the Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavior Therapy and he eventually branched out on his own. Schema Therapy is considered an integrative model because it draws on cognitive therapy, behaviorism, attachment theory, emotion-focused and relationship-based therapies and other schools of thought. Due to its strong roots in cognitive behavior therapy, I believe it is a natural extension to CBT for helping people who want or need a more depth-oriented approach.

Schema Therapy places emphasis on:

  • Identifying and resolving self-defeating life patterns and deeply rooted emotional themes,
  • Building resiliency and productive responses to life challenges,
  • Drawing out and enabling the strong part of your personality,
  • Employing a variety of cognitive, behavioral and emotional change techniques, and
  • Using the therapeutic relationship as a vehicle for change

What Is the Theory Behind Schema Therapy?

Schema ModelIn Schema Therapy, you will learn which of your schemas are triggered when you notice a strong reaction in yourself. The schema model has identified 18 schemas, typically developed when core emotional needs are not meet in childhood. Some common schemas include abandonment, defectiveness/shame, unrelenting standards, and vulnerability to harm/illness.

In order to cope with the pain when our schemas are triggered, we may develop certain coping styles including:

  • Surrender: giving in to our schemas and repeating them over and over,
  • Avoidance: finding ways to escape or block out our schemas, and/or
  • Overcompensation: doing the opposite of what our schemas make us feel.

When triggered, we may have a strong emotional reaction or mood shift, and we then enter a coping state called a “mode.” There are four categories of schema modes: the innate Child modes (vulnerability, anger, undisciplined/impulsive, contented), the Maladaptive Coping modes (detachment, compliance, overcompensating), the Maladaptive Parent modes (punitive, demanding/critical), and the Healthy Adult mode. The goal of schema therapy is to help you get your core needs met in an adaptive manner by enhancing the Healthy Adult coping mode so your schemas are triggered less frequently and intensely and you can recover more quickly.

Is Schema Therapy Evidence-Based?

I was impressed and pleasantly surprised by the large and growing research base, primarily led by therapists in Europe, where there is support and government funding for longer-term therapies that have been proven effective for deeper and longer-lasting change. In the U.S., most research grants and insurance funding are targeted toward shorter-term therapy approaches for symptom reduction. As a result, schema therapy is not well-known in the U.S. As of this writing, there are no Certified Schema Therapists in California. I hope to change this.

Who Does Schema Therapy Help?

PersonalitySchema Therapy is particularly well suited for adults who:

  • Have recurring depression, anxiety and relationship problems and don’t understand why they stay stuck in the same patterns year after year,
  • Want deeper, more long lasting personality change and relapse prevention after their anxiety, depression and other immediate crises have been resolved,
  • Have chronic anxiety, OCD and depression that does not respond fully to standard CBT, DBT and exposure therapy protocols, or
  • Have successfully completed evidence-based treatment for anxiety, depression, OCD and other problems and want to continue to work on underlying issues in order to improve the quality of their lives and relationships.

Schema Therapy is beginning to be tailored for many populations including children, teens and families. This is an exciting development in Schema Therapy because it will help children and teens develop into healthy adults and prevent them from having chronic anxiety, depression and other problems in adulthood.

What Does Schema Therapy Entail?

Phase 1: Assessment and Education

The assessment phase generally lasts for five to seven sessions and focuses on:

  • Education about the Schema Therapy model.
  • Assessing schemas and coping styles through interviews, inventories and emotional techniques.
  • Scoring and interpreting the results of various schema inventories.
  • Activating schemas using emotional techniques such as imagery.
  • Noticing how schemas show up in the therapy relationship.

Phase 2: Schema Therapy Treatment

As a longer-term, depth-oriented treatment approach for chronic emotional and relationship problems as well as personality change, you can expect the active treatment phase to be about one to two years of weekly therapy. As mentioned earlier, Schema Therapy uses a variety of strategies to contribute to change.

  • Cognitive Techniques: schema diaries, pros and cons of schemas and coping styles, schema dialogues and flashcards.
  • Emotion-Focused Techniques: emotional change through imagery, role plays and two-chair work.
  • Therapy Relationship: empathic confrontation and analyzing schemas when triggered in sessions.
  • Behavioral Techniques: behavioral assignments, skills training and exposure tasks to overcome avoidance of trigger situations.
How to Get Started with Schema Therapy

I hope this article has wet your appetite to learn more about Schema Therapy and perhaps even partake in Schema Therapy yourself. To learn more about Schema Therapy in a self-help format, you can read Reinventing Your Life. If you are interested in starting Schema Therapy, contact the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley at (408) 384-8404 or the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Sacramento Valley at (916) 778-0771 or send us an email.

 

Beck Institute on Depression

Beck Institute Group Photo

Erica Russell, Dr. Judith Beck and the workshop participants

I recently attended the Beck Institute’s training on Cognitive Therapy for Depression and Suicidality in San Francisco. The Beck Institute was established by Dr. Aaron Beck, the father of CBT, and his daughter, Dr. Judith Beck. As a world-renowned resource for training in CBT, I felt extremely lucky to attend this event and receive training from some of the CBT field’s most prominent members. The three-day training was host to professionals from all over the world and was led by Dr. Judith Beck and Dr. Daniella Cavanaugh, the Beck Institute’s Director of Education.

The CBT treatment for depression focuses on building awareness of and shifting these negative automatic thoughts and core beliefs, as well as developing a plan to increase a client’s daily activities. The training began by reviewing the basics of the cognitive model and then went on to provide specific information on the conceptualization and treatment of depression and suicidality. The Beck Institute conceptualizes depression as a combination of negative core beliefs (which we formulate early in life based on our experiences), negative automatic thoughts (which are typically linked to our core beliefs, but are activated more immediately), and maladaptive coping behaviors (which may involve social isolation, a lack of physical activity, or avoiding previous activities or interests).

Dr. Beck delved into the most common core beliefs held by depressed individuals and then discussed how these beliefs influence negative automatic thoughts. Common core beliefs center around a negative view of the self, the world, and the future. Clients typically express thoughts about themselves related to being “helpless”, “hopeless” or “worthless”.

Through role plays, Dr. Beck demonstrated how to uncover core beliefs and shift negative automatic thoughts toward more realistic alternative thoughts. She utilized socratic questioning, which involves assisting the client in evaluating and clarifying his or her statements, to uncover and shift negative automatic thoughts. Examples of socratic questions include: “What evidence do I have that this thought is true?” and “what’s an alternative viewpoint?” To assist with uncovering the deeper core beliefs, Dr. Beck utilized the downward arrow technique, which involves asking questions to elicit the meaning behind an automatic thought, such as “what would it mean to you if that was true?” This segment of the training involved time for those in attendance to pair up and practice interventions in role plays together. As a therapist, getting to witness Dr. Beck in action was like getting to watch a favorite rockstar on stage!

Erica and Dr Cavanaugh

Erica and Dr Cavanaugh

After covering cognitive interventions, Dr. Beck spent time discussing the most helpful behavioral strategies for depression, including scheduling pleasant activities, teaching problem solving and interpersonal skills, and encouraging adaptive behaviors, such as exercise and relaxation.

The final day of the training was led by Dr. Cavanaugh and focused on the treatment of suicidal clients. I found the information about practicing coping skills to prevent relapses into suicidal thinking to be particularly helpful. One of my favorite new ideas for coping with suicidal thoughts is a free app called “Virtual Hope Box”. The app includes the ability to add pictures or music that help you to feel hopeful, play games or access relaxation excesses for distraction, and create coping cards with positive responses to your most common negative thoughts. Dr. Beck also recommended creating a physical hope box (an actual collection of photos or items that help you to feel hopeful), but I loved the idea of having this electronic option that you can always carry with you.

Exposure & Response Prevention for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Exposure and Response (Ritual) Prevention for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Exposure and Response Prevention OCD PennI recently attended intensive training in Exposure and Response Prevention for OCD at the Center for the Treatment and Study of Anxiety at the University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia. In addition to terrific presentations by Dr. Elna Yadin, OCD Clinic Director, and staff members, we were honored with a Q&A session with Dr. Edna Foa. While I already considered myself a skilled therapist in treating OCD, this training helped refine my skills in systematically implementing a specialized form of OCD treatment called “Exposure and Response (Ritual) Prevention,” also know as EX/RP or ERP.

What is Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)?

Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) is a neurological disorder that causes severe anxiety/distress and affects your thinking and behavior. OCD tends to attack the things you value the most. When you feel anxious, it might feel like you are in danger. OCD tells you to respond, react, protect yourself, and do something to get rid of the distress. You might recognize that the fear is excessive or doesn’t make sense, yet it still feels very real, intense, and true. If you have OCD, the warning system in your brain is not working correctly. Your brain is telling you that you are in danger when you are not.

Common Types of OCD

OCD CartoonObsessions are unwanted, intrusive thoughts, images, or impulses that occur over and over again and feel out of your control. They are disturbing, anxiety-provoking and perhaps even disgusting to you. Common obsessions include contamination from germs, bodily fluids, diseases, or chemicals; causing or failing to prevent harm to others; fear of losing control; sexual, religious or morally offensive thoughts and images; perfectionism; and not-just-right feelings.

Compulsions are repetitive behaviors or mental rituals that you engage in to neutralize, undo or make your anxiety go away. Compulsions can also include avoiding situations that trigger obsessions. Common compulsions include checking, washing and cleaning, repeating an action, putting things in order, praying, counting, mental review, reassurance seeking, apologizing and confessing. These actions are designed to prevent or reduce emotional discomfort and avoid the occurrence of a dreaded event. Compulsions tend to provide temporary relief but the obsessions soon return.

It is important to note that OCD comes in many different forms and no two OCD sufferers are alike in their combination of obsessions and compulsions as well as the meaning they attribute to their feared catastrophe.

What is Exposure and Response (Ritual) Prevention (EX/RP)?

In a nutshell, EX/RP consists of exposing you to the triggers that cause anxiety and fear and teaching you to resist doing any compulsions or rituals to reduce the distress. The basic principles of EX/RP can be boiled down to three steps that need to be practiced consistently to overcome OCD:

  1. Confront the things you fear as often as possible.
  2. If you feel like you have to avoid something, don’t.
  3. If you feel like you have to perform a ritual to feel better, don’t.

With EX/RP, your brain learns that you can tolerate anxiety and that your anxiety will eventually come down without rituals. Your brain will learn that the feared catastrophe does not happen or that you could handle it if it did. And you may start to realize just how ridiculous or unrealistic your obsessional fears are and how much OCD is taking away from your life. Basically, OCD is a bully! We will teach you how to take charge and not give OCD the attention it craves.

The main treatment components of EX/RP include:

  • Assessment, Education and Treatment Planning: We’ll identify all your triggers, obsessional fears and related rituals and make a plan to systematically approach your fears without engaging in rituals. We will also teach you about the sneaky ways OCD tries to trick you and lies to you. You will learn that OCD is like a “tic” in the brain that is trying to protect you but instead OCD is making you a slave and ruining your life.
  • In Vivo Exposure: Exposures are the heart of OCD treatment. In this step, we will expose you to real life triggers that elicit fear, anxiety and/or disgust in a gradual hierarchical manner. We will start with easy exposures and, as you gain confidence you can cope with your anxiety, we will move up the hierarchy to confront situations that are more challenging.
  • Imaginal Exposure: This involves prolonged exposure in your imagination to your worst fears without doing any rituals. We’ll develop a script (or series of scripts) for you to record and listen to every day until you are no longer scared of the content of your obsessions and you can visualize yourself facing your fear without any rituals.
  • Response (Ritual) Prevention: RP is the identification and elimination of all physical and mental compulsions so you can learn you can cope with distress without doing rituals or avoidance. You will learn that while your rituals reduce anxiety/distress in the short term, they are not building your courage that you can handle anxiety without them. Rituals are actually fuel to OCD’s fire and maintain the OCD cycle.
  • Cognitive Processing: The key to long term, permanent change is gaining new beliefs and increasing your self-confidence. OCD is making you believe things that aren’t true and exaggerating the danger of your fears. In order to help you overcome OCD, we won’t tell you what to think because OCD will just argue with you. Instead, we’ll discuss what you have actually learned through your EX/RP activities and reinforce your experiential learning in order to create new beliefs about the meaning of your obsessions.

Treatment Description

Stop Being OCDIn EX/RP, you will purposely experience your obsessive thoughts without ritualizing so you can learn that your discomfort/anxiety will come down and your fear is eventually extinguished. With your therapist, you will develop a hierarchy of exposures that will elicit your obsessional fear and we’ll develop a plan for systematically targeting each of the items. We’ll identify both behavioral and mental rituals to eliminate. EX/RP generally takes about 20 sessions total. We recommend two 75-minute sessions per week to help you maintain continuity and motivation in doing the exposures and to progress more quickly to relieve your suffering.

Initial Evaluation Session

The goal of the initial evaluation session is to learn about your background and history as well as determine what type of anxiety you have. If the diagnosis is OCD, then we will discuss the EX/RP treatment approach and determine if it is a good fit for you. We will also begin to assess your motivation since completing daily exposures in between sessions is essential to success in this program.

Information Gathering and Education

In the next one to two sessions, we will gather a lot of information about the content of your obsessions, types of compulsions/rituals you use to reduce obsessive fears, and the feared consequences if you are unable to perform your rituals. We will use a standardized assessment tool called the YBOCS, which helps us assess all the OCD symptoms and rate the severity of your OCD from mild, moderate to severe. You will also be asked to monitor your OCD symptoms throughout the week. The goal of this phase is to develop a thorough understanding of your obsessions and compulsions and the situations likely to trigger them. We will continue to assess your motivation for treatment and how much support you will need by the therapist and family members in implementing your EX/RP plan.

Treatment Planning

Next, we will spend one to two sessions determining what the feared catastrophe is, creating the hierarchy, identifying and ranking the order of exposures, deciding whether imaginal exposure is needed, creating the plan for reducing and eliminating rituals, and deciding whether exposure requires travel outside the therapist’s office such as a home visit. The question often arises as to whether we need to create different hierarchies for each type of OCD. While this may be helpful when the OCDs seem completely unrelated to one another, it is often not needed because the ultimate fear is often the same for all the OCDs. By creating one master hierarchy and working on fears by level of discomfort/anxiety, you will learn the principles of treatment and the therapy often generalizes more effectively from one symptom to the next.

To create a hierarchy, you and your therapist will generate a list of all the situations that provoke obsessive fear and avoidance behavior. We will then ask you to rate how much distress each situation causes for you on a scale of 0 to 100 and we will place the items in order from easiest to hardest. We generally start working on exposures rated in the 40-50 range and progress to harder exposures and the easier ones are mastered.

Imaginal exposures are used when engaging in the actual situation is not possible in real life, when your feared consequences are so far into the future that they can not be disconfirmed, or when you have so much fear approaching the real life situations that we need to start with thinking about the situation before progressing to actual exposures.

Exposure and Response Prevention Treatment

EX/RP treatment begins when we start working on the first situation on your hierarchy. Generally, 15 exposure sessions are recommended but some people with mild OCD may progress more rapidly while others with more severe OCD may need extra sessions. We will start with doing exposures during the therapy session and then assign the same exposure as homework for you to practice on your own. When your distress significantly declines and you no longer fear the situation, then we will move to the next item on the hierarchy. Since we are starting with items you ranked at a moderate level and only moving up when your distress has declined, it makes working on the harder items on the hierarchy feel much easier. If you find that you are not feeling a reduction of anxiety within 45 minutes, then we have probably underestimated the difficulty of that situation and we would move to an easier item. If we are working at the right pace, you should be feeling challenged in exposure sessions but not so uneasy that you can’t do it.

While doing exposures, you will not be allowed to perform any rituals to undo the anxiety or distress. Sometimes we may allow you to modify a ritual to allow you to approach situations that are more difficult and higher on the hierarchy but our goal will be to quickly eliminate the all rituals associated with that situation. We want your brain to learn that it can face your fears and overcome obsessional fears without doing any rituals.

A key to success in EX/RP is changing how you relate to the meaning of danger created by your OCD. This is called cognitive processing, where we will discuss what you learned from the exposure without doing your normal rituals. We will stress that the content of your obsessions doesn’t matter because OCD will latch onto whatever is important to you. Most people have multiple types of OCD and notice it morphs and evolves over time into new symptoms. We want you to learn the general principles of EX/RP so you can “zap” whatever part of your life OCD wants to target in the future.

We will move up the hierarchy as quickly as you can tolerate it. When all the items on your hierarchy no longer cause distress and you are no longer performing rituals to reduce anxiety, then we can formally end the EX/RP treatment phase.

Relapse Prevention

Generally, we’ll plan on two to three relapse prevention sessions spaced out over time. OCD symptoms often wax and wane with stress and life transitions. Relapse prevention consists of reviewing your progress, identifying the tools you can use to manage any future OCD flare ups, identifying and planning how to handle potential future stressors, and knowing the warning signs of OCD and how you can treat it yourself with your tools, especially self-exposure.

Real Therapists for Real People: Caitlyn Oscarson, LMFT

Caitlyn Oscarson’s Personal Journey of Becoming a Therapist

Caitlyn and EllisMy name is Caitlyn Oscarson and I am very proud to have worked at the CBT Center of Silicon Valley for the past two years. I grew up in the Willow Glen area of San Jose and graduated from Lincoln High School. I attend undergrad at Cal Poly San Luis Obispo and lived there very happily for a few years past graduation. In 2007 I was accepted in to the MS in Clinical Psychology program at San Jose State and found myself back in the bay area. I have lived in downtown San Jose and Los Gatos but now am back in Willow Glen, about 2 miles from where I grew up!

I started undergrad as a psychology major – mostly because I thought it sounded interesting and unlike anything I had done in high school. It turned out to be a great choice – I loved the research aspect of it but I knew I would be drawn to working directly with helping people. When I graduated I quickly got a job as an in-home behavior support counselor at a local foster care agency. For two years I worked with foster youth and families in their homes and in the community. I was honored to work with some amazingly resilient foster youth and endlessly giving and generous foster families but ultimately I felt limited in my role as a behavior counselor and decided to pursue grad school and become a therapist. I chose San Jose State’s clinical psychology program because it focused on evidence-based therapies, including CBT. I also was really excited to move back to the bay area. San Jose doesn’t have the greatest reputation but I really enjoy living here. I love the all the parks and hiking trails, the amazing and diverse restaurants, and the laid back friendly vibe in our neighborhood.

I love doing anything outdoors and feel so lucky to live so close to so much beautiful scenery. Our 3-year-old (and still very much a puppy) German Shepard Mix helps motivate us to get out for walks every morning and evening. We love going on local hikes on the weekends, and, when we can, escape to our cabin in Northern California near Mt Shasta. We are also going to try out camping for the first time with our 10 month old this month. I’m sure he will eat a lot of dirt and be filthy by the end of the trip, but I am so hopeful that he will love hiking and camping as much as we do. In the rest of my very little free time I love to cook, practice yoga,

My son will turn one in September – the past year has gone so fast and already been such an amazing journey. Though being a working mom presents its challenges, I think that becoming a parent has made me a better therapist. Like most new moms, I find a lot of things to worry about and I use all the skills I teach my clients to manage my own uncertainties about my son’s well being and my ability as a mother. I’ve always been a bit of perfectionist in certain areas and motherhood has been another important reminder that being perfect isn’t what life is all about.

 

Real Therapists for Real People: Melissa Gould, LPCC

Melissa Gould’s Personal Journey of Becoming A Therapist

Melissa Gould, LPCCMy name is Melissa Gould. What a great opportunity to share a bit about myself both personally and professionally. For starters, I was born in Michigan but moved to Florida after only a few short years. I was raised in Southwest Florida but moved to the state capital, Tallahassee, for college and graduate school. Like many college freshman, I was clueless about a major but I knew it needed to be one that would lend itself to a fulfilling career. In hindsight, it seems like I stumbled into psychology but it quickly turned into something that both challenged and intrigued me, and I was hooked. I found myself reading psychology books for class and in the bookstore on my own. There were many things that fascinated me about the field, but one that stood out was how two individuals can experience very similar circumstances and be affected by them in vastly different ways. After graduation, the career paths were nothing like what I saw myself doing so I continued school to become a therapist; it seemed like the most useful application of the knowledge I gained while in school.

Following graduate school, I worked in a number of functions on my path to learning more about my professional self and interests. These included doing psychological assessments with children, in-home crisis counseling with families, and behavioral health assessments in residential treatment. The one aspect that I’ve learned to love regardless of my title is just how much of the process feels similar to putting together a jigsaw puzzle; only with people, the puzzle is much more complex and compassion must be shown to each piece.

On a personal note, I enjoy staying active with very few exceptions. Relocating from Florida to California just 3 years ago has meant the ability to be outside nearly year-round. I enjoy hiking, running, biking, football, softball, and all things water! Photography is another personal interest, especially macro photography. When you magnify an object several times, even the most mundane of creatures looks fascinating. And finally, digital scrapbooking is a hobby that allows me to document and creatively expand on my life. So a typical weekend involves being active, photographing the experience, and then telling the story in a digital fashion so I can reflect on it in the future. I recently got married and I’m thoroughly enjoying this phase of life.

My work in residential treatment with children and teens has taught me the value of behavior therapy. My work with adults has highlighted the destructive nature of unhealthy thinking. And today, a combined CBT approach is what I find suits me best and is most effective with the clients I work with. I often use humor and creativity to convey my point, or to highlight something of importance in a variety of ways. I find that when working with children and teens, modifications that involve a funny twist or a dynamic illustration are far more likely to convey a point well. I get tremendous joy in working with children and families. Oftentimes, the simple step of de-shaming a behavior, for example, can dramatically improve the quality of a child’s life. It is in these smaller aspects of my professional career that I find great joy and satisfaction.

Laura Belknap, Assistant to the Center Director

Laura Belknap Photo 2Laura Belknap, BA
Assistant to the Director
Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center

Laura Belknap is the friendly voice who greets you when you call the CBT Center’s main line. Her responsibilities include answering questions and educating new clients about CBT, scheduling initial evaluation sessions, and assisting the Center Director with special projects and administrative work.

Education

Laura is a recent graduate of UC Berkeley where she received a BA in psychology and a minor in education (GO BEARS!). She was on the Dean’s Honor List and received the Pi Beta Phi Academic Achievement Award. Laura also spent a semester in Paris, France to study French Civilization, Culture and Language.

Work and Volunteer Experience

  • Editor and Marketing Associate, Undergraduate Journal of Psychology at UC Berkeley
  • Lab Assistant, Supporting Father Involvement Project (Institute of Human Development), Berkeley, CA
  • Sage Project Afterschool Mentor and Tutor, Emerson Elementary School, Berkeley, CA
  • Afterschool Program Volunteer, St. Jarlath Catholic School, Oakland, CA
  • Children’s Center Staff Member and Desk Receptionist at the Bay Club Courtside, Los Gatos, CA
  • Childcare Provider since 2010, where she oversees the care of one girl and two boys, ages 5, 3, and 2 years

Career Goals

Laura Belknap was born and raised in San Jose, CA in the quaint family neighborhood of Willow Glen. Even though she loved the city of Berkeley, Laura felt that moving back to San Jose to find a job working closely with therapists, and gaining insight into counseling would be the best decision for her. Laura is planning to attend graduate school in the near future where she will have the opportunity to further her education in the field of psychology, with the goal of one day becoming a practicing therapist. She feels grateful for her new position at the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley not only because it has been a great learning experience in teaching her the ins-and-outs of cognitive behavior therapy, but also because it is the exact post-college job Laura sought throughout her undergraduate career.

 

Not Your Grandmother’s Therapy

My Personal Experience with Cognitive Behavior Therapy

Cognitive Behavior Therapy ModelI’ve had a passion for cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) since the late 1990s when I experienced how broadening my perspective improved my life. I came across CBT in an unusual way. I was attending a four day leadership development seminar. As an introvert, I was struggling in a highly political corporate culture and needed help improving my confidence and relationships at work. Before arriving, I completed a battery of personality tests like the Myers Briggs. On the last day of the seminar, the center brought in a bunch of coaches to help the attendees interpret our results.

Upon meeting my coach, I admired her presence but thought, “How could she possibly understand me? She looks so confident and at ease in public. She can’t possibly know what it feels like to be nervous to speak up at meetings.” To my surprise, I instantly clicked with her when she shared her experience of being an introvert and how she learned to flex her style to the circumstances. I thought, “If she’s just like me, then there’s hope for me too.” I continued to work with my coach by telephone over the next year and a half.

Fixing My Thinking Traps

My coach listened carefully to how I recounted stories of interactions with colleagues and management. Very early on she said, “I notice you’ve come to a conclusion about what other people are thinking in this situation. You might be right. That’s certainly one conclusion. However, are there any other possibilities of what this situation might mean?” Since my coach approached my beliefs in a supportive and nonjudgmental manner, it melted my resistance and helped me be open to exploring other possibilities.

Thinking Traps

At first, I didn’t realize that my coach, also a clinical psychologist, was using strategies adapted from cognitive behavior therapy or even what CBT was. She taught me to test my automatic thoughts by identifying all the possibilities of what something might mean and applying percentages to estimate how likely each conclusion was true. I started to see that my initial conclusion might be true but, realistically, it only had about a 30% chance of happening and that there were other logical conclusions I could draw from the same circumstances. I learned to face and plan for my worst fears, like “What if I get fired?” This reduced my anxiety since I no longer thought my “worst case” scenario was 100% true. And, if it did happen, I recognized that I did have the internal resources to cope.

New Perspectives

For example, I might conclude that my manager didn’t value me because she didn’t invite me to a meeting. My coach would say, “Yes, that might be true but are there any others ways to interpret this?” At first this was hard. I’d say, “Well, I really don’t think she values me because a month ago, I didn’t get invited to another meeting.” My coach said, “Okay, but is there any evidence that she does value you?” I thought for a few minutes and said, “Maybe she doesn’t realize I want to be involved with this project because I’ve never shown an interest in it. She probably thinks I’m too busy with all my other work and has decided to take this one on herself. Oh, and now I remember, just last week she gave me a new project and offered to hire a temporary contractor to help me. So I guess she does value me.” The cognitive distortions in my automatic thoughts seem rather obvious now. I was ignoring the positive evidence that my manager valued me and zeroing in on the evidence that supported my negative belief.

Eventually It Becomes More Natural

CBT Becomes More Natural with Time and PracticeToday, the way of thinking I learned from my coach has become more natural and automatic. I’m less likely to jump to conclusions – or when I do – I can stop and ask myself questions to see other possibilities. I continue to actively use CBT skills when I start to feel negative emotions, like worry or anger, in order to manage my mood before it spirals downward. The greatest benefit has been that I feel more engaged in my life and relationships because I’m able to feel subtle positive emotions, like peace and joy. My self-esteem and confidence have increased because I have re-oriented my brain to notice and appreciate the positive, however small it might be.

More than a decade later, I am no longer in the corporate world. I went back to school and have become a cognitive behavior therapist, inspired by my personal experience and my desire to help other people find greater peace and joy in their lives.

 

Note: This article was first published on MentalHelp.net on December 2, 2010.

How Lucky Are You?

Growing up, I did not consider myself to be a lucky person. I often heard my father saying things like “Everything I buy breaks. I have the worst luck.” When I was nine, I won a holiday raffle at school for a plastic candy cane filled with M&Ms. I was sick that day, the only day I missed that year, and the teacher re-drew names. For years, I saw this as proof I wasn’t lucky. I started to believe, just like my dad, that I had the worst luck and became anxious about trying new things. I expected the worst to happen and my anxious behavior and negative thinking often ensured it did. When things went well, I’d find a reason why it was an exception and when things went poorly, I told myself, “That’s okay. I didn’t expect it to work out anyway.”

How Lucky Are You?One day when I was in my early 20s, I read a story by a manager explaining his career success. Here’s what I recall him writing:

“I used to work late every night. One evening, I was in the elevator and the CEO got on. We chatted and he asked me, ‘Haven’t I seen you here before?’ I responded, ‘You might have, sir. I’ve been here every day and evening since I started this job two years ago.’ He said, ‘Son, why don’t you come by my office in the morning.’ The next day,he assigned a tough job to me, one he said needed someone who could work hard and be available to clients at all hours. I gladly accepted and my career progressed over the next 20 years.”

This prompted an “aha” moment. I became inspired to start turning my luck around through hard work and, over time, letting go of my negative inner voice.

Working Hard to Get Lucky

It’s easy to think some people are luckier than others and just “have all the luck” or “are in the right place at the right time.” However, most successful people work hard and, slowly but surely, they encounter and capitalize on lucky opportunities.

Some people do have natural talent and you might think that’s why they are lucky. Have you ever told yourself, “Oh, that person is so lucky but I’ll never amount to anything because I don’t have his or her talent”? It’s easy to fall into this thinking trap when we watch seemingly overnight sensations on reality TV. On the other hand, is that the exception rather than the rule? For example, Michael Grimm, recent winner on “America’s Got Talent,” started working in local bars at age 12. Eighteen years later, it appears he “just got lucky.”

Research has found it takes hard work and deliberate practice, not just natural talent, to achieve great success. Deliberate practice takes your abilities to the next level with disciplined and frequent practice focused on achieving clearly defined objectives, developing specific skills and getting feedback on your performance. Research indicates it takes 10,000 hours, or 10 years on average, of deliberate practice to become an expert in any field.

Your Thinking Can Improve Your Luck

There’s another way to improve your luck. That’s to harness the power of your thinking, attitudes and beliefs about yourself and the world to start noticing opportunities, listening to your intuition, expecting good things to happen and turning bad luck into good luck.

Richard Wiseman’s research, described in The Luck Factor and a Reader’s Digest article, identified four factors common among lucky people. They tend to:

  • Be skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities: Lucky people are relaxed and open to new experiences, allowing them to notice what is present. In contrast, when you are anxious, you may get tunnel vision and miss opportunities.
  • Make good decisions by listening to their intuition: Lucky people listen to their inner voice and avoid second guessing themselves too much or looking back on their decisions with regret.
  • Create self-fulfilling prophecies with positive expectations: Lucky people expect good things and have an optimistic explanatory style. When bad things happen, lucky people tend to see the cause as external, believe the bad event will end and don’t let it affect too many parts of their life.
  • Adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good: Lucky people see the positive side of bad events. Instead of telling themselves, “This is awful,” and falling into despair, lucky people focus on how things could have been worse and are thankful for their good luck.

 

Note: This article originally appeared on MentalHelp.net on September 27, 2010.

A Mindful Approach for Chronic Depression

Chronic Unhappiness is Hard to Change

It’s challenging to try to help people change who have had a lifetime of mental suffering and hold deeply-entrenched negative beliefs about themselves and the world. The other day I was working with a client who yelled out in pain, “There’s nothing positive about my situation!”  I sat there feeling helpless because I could see his strengths, but my words fell on deaf ears.

Cycles

Cycles

One type of therapy I am exploring for clients with chronic depression is Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT), which was developed by Segal, Williams, and Teasdale. They found that people who hold depressive thinking styles are more easily triggered into depressive episodes. The more times this happens, the stronger the neurological connections become and the more likely they are to experience another depressive cycle.

What is MBCT?

MBCT combines mindfulness and cognitive therapy. It is generally taught in an eight-week class of two hours each plus one full-day session. Participants learn mindfulness techniques like the three-minute breathing space, which helps them to call upon mindfulness in stressful moments.

The cognitive therapy component includes learning about negative thinking styles and your own automatic thought patterns, reframing negative thoughts as part of the landscape of depression, recognizing that thoughts aren’t facts and asking yourself questions to help you see reality more clearly. Homework includes using CDs with guided meditations at home.

Crouching Tiger

MBCT in Action

Let’s say you have just gotten chewed out by your boss for turning in a report with several mistakes. Your normal mode of responding might be to defend yourself and argue, “You didn’t give me enough time.” Or maybe it’s to passively listen and then sulk at your desk with thoughts like “I’m no good at this job” and “He’s always such a jerk.” For someone with a strong negative thinking style, this could be enough to trigger depression.

Instead, you can use the three-minute mindful breathing meditation to become aware of the thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations that arise in the moment of a challenging situation. The goal of the three-minute breathing space isn’t to take away negative feelings. It’s to help you access a clearer frame of mind so you can respond to stressful situations more skillfully and use different approaches to relate to your thoughts.

Promise

Promise

Promising Research for MBCT

The National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence in the United Kingdom recommends MBCT for people who are currently well but have experienced three or more depressive episodes. In 2000, a research study found that 66% of participants in MBCT remained relapse-free vs. 34% in the control group. Another study in 2004 replicated the results and found the rate of relapse to be 36% in MBCT group vs. 78% in the control group. MBCT was not found to be effective in people with one or two depressive episodes.

MBCT and Positive Psychology

MBCT has some strategies in common with positive psychology. MBCT helps participants to:

  • Observe their negative thoughts with curiosity and kindness
  • To accept themselves and stop wishing things were different
  • To let go of old habits and choose a different way of being
  • To be present in the moment and notice small beauties and pleasures in the world
Appreciating Beauty

Appreciating Beauty

Just Notice

MBCT is intriguing because the goal isn’t to analyze and change your negative thoughts, but instead to simply be aware of your thoughts and learn to regard them as events of the mind. MBCT teaches people to notice their thought patterns and to change their relationship to their thoughts. Instead of believing the things your mind tells you like, “I am loser because I’ll never get a date,” you might instead just notice, “There’s that thought again that I’m a loser,” without having to react to it.

By noticing when you are at risk of getting caught in the negative habits of your mind, you will be more able to prevent sadness from spiraling into full-blown depression.


References:

Ma, S.H., & Teasdale, J.D. (2004). Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy for depression: Replication and exploration of differential relapse prevention effects. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 72, 31-40.

Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy sites:

www.mbct.com
www.mbct.co.uk

National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence, United Kingdom. Depression: The treatment and management of depression in adults (see page 10)

Segal, Williams & Teasdale. (2001). Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy for Depression: A New Approach to Preventing RelapseGuilford Press.

Teasdale, J. D., Segal, Z. V., Williams, J. M. G., Ridgeway, V., Soulsby, J., & Lau, M. (2000). Prevention of relapse/recurrence in major depression by mindfulness-based cognitive therapy.. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 68, 615-623.

Williams, M., Teasdale, J., Segal, Z. & Kabat-Zinn, J. (2007). The Mindful Way through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness. Guilford Press.

Images
Cycles courtesy of Mike Cattell
Crouching Tiger (butterfly) courtesy of Ajith U
Colorful World of Things Natural (flower) courtesy of sling@flickr
Batur Volcano and Lake (Appreciating Beauty) courtesy of tropicalLiving

 

Note: This article originally appeared on Positive Psychology News Daily on October 25, 2010. Reprinted with permission of the editors at PPND.

Schemas in Schema Therapy

What is Schema Therapy?

Schema TherapySchema therapy is an extension of cognitive behavior therapy designed to treat a variety of long-standing emotional difficulties with significant origins in childhood and adolescent development. The goal of schema therapy is to help clients get their core needs met in an adaptive manner by enhancing positive schemas and developing healthier coping responses when negative schemas are triggered.

Negative schemas develop when core childhood needs are not met. When parents can more or less meet the child’s core emotional needs in appropriate amounts, the child develops into a healthy adult. Children’s basic needs include:

  • Safety
  • Stable Base, Predictability
  • Love, Nurturing & Attention
  • Acceptance & Praise
  • Empathy
  • Guidance & Protection
  • Validation of Feelings & Needs

Schema Therapy vs. Cognitive Behavior Therapy

Compared to traditional cognitive behavior therapy, schema therapy incorporates:

  • Greater emphasis on the therapeutic relationship
  • More emphasis on affect (e.g., imagery, role-playing) and mood states
  • More discussion of childhood origins and developmental processes
  • More emphasis on lifelong coping styles (e.g., avoidance and overcompensation)
  • More emphasis on entrenched core themes (i.e., core beliefs and schemas)

Schemas — What Are They?

A schema is a stable, enduring negative pattern that develops during childhood or adolescence and is reinforced through thoughts, core beliefs, actions and relationships throughout an individual’s life. We view the world through our schemas. Schemas incorporate core beliefs and feelings about oneself and the environment which the individual accepts without question. They are self-perpetuating, and are very resistant to change.

Even though schemas persist once they are formed, they are not always in our awareness. Usually they operate in subtle ways, out of our awareness. Everyone has schemas since no parent could be a perfect parent and fulfill every emotional need 100% of the time. While the schema descriptions may sound negative, it is normal to have some elements of some schemas within your personality structure. However, when a schema erupts or is triggered by events, our thoughts and feelings are dominated by these schemas. It is at these moments that people tend to experience extreme negative emotions and have dysfunctional thoughts.

18 Common Schema Themes

  1. Emotional Deprivation: This schema refers to the belief that one’s primary emotional needs will never be met by others. These needs can be described in three categories: Nurturance—needs for affection, closeness and love; Empathy—needs to be listened to and understood; Protection—needs for advice, guidance and direction. Generally parents are cold or removed and don’t adequately care for the child in ways that would adequately meet the above needs.
  2. Abandonment/Instability: This schema refers to the expectation that one will soon lose anyone with whom an emotional attachment is formed. The person believes that, one way or another, close relationships will end imminently. As children, these clients may have experienced the divorce or death of parents. This schema can also arise when parents have been inconsistent in attending to the child’s needs; for instance, there may have been frequent occasions on which the child was left alone or unattended to for extended periods.
  3. Mistrust/Abuse: This schema refers to the expectation that others will intentionally take advantage in some way. People with this schema expect others to hurt, cheat, or put them down. They often think in terms of attacking first or getting revenge afterwards. In childhood, these clients were often abused or treated unfairly by parents, siblings, or peers.
  4. Social Isolation/Alienation: This schema refers to the belief that one is isolated from the world, different from other people, and/or not part of any community. This belief is usually caused by early experiences in which children see that either they, or their families, are different from other people.
  5. Defectiveness/Shame: This schema refers to the belief that one is internally flawed, and that, if others get close, they will realize this and withdraw from the relationship. This feeling of being flawed and inadequate often leads to a strong sense of shame. Generally parents were very critical of their children and made them feel as if they were not worthy of being loved.
  6. Failure: This schema refers to the belief that one is incapable of performing as well as one’s peers in areas such as career, school or sports. These clients may feel stupid, inept or untalented. People with this schema often do not try to achieve because they believe that they will fail. This schema may develop if children are put down and treated as if they are a failure in school and other spheres of accomplishment. Usually the parents did not give enough support, discipline, and encouragement for the child to persist and succeed in areas of achievement, such as schoolwork or sport.
  7. Dependence/Incompetence: This schema refers to the belief that one is not capable of handling day-to-day responsibilities competently and independently. People with this schema often rely on others excessively for help in areas such as decision-making and initiating new tasks. Generally, parents did not encourage these children to act independently and develop confidence in their ability to take care of themselves.
  8. Vulnerability to Harm and Illness: This schema refers to the belief that one is always on the verge of experiencing a major catastrophe (financial, natural, medical, criminal, etc.). It may lead to taking excessive precautions to protect oneself. Usually there was an extremely fearful parent who passed on the idea that the world is a dangerous place.
  9. Enmeshment/Undeveloped Self: This schema refers to a pattern in which you experience too much emotional involvement with others – usually parents or romantic partners. It may also include the sense that one has too little individual identity or inner direction, causing a feeling of emptiness or of floundering. This schema is often brought on by parents who are so controlling, abusive, or so overprotective that the child is discouraged from developing a separate sense of self.
  10. Subjugation: This schema refers to the belief that one must submit to the control of others in order to avoid negative consequences. Often these clients fear that, unless they submit, others will get angry or reject them. Clients who subjugate ignore their own desires and feelings. In childhood there was generally a very controlling parent.
  11. Self-Sacrifice: This schema refers to the excessive sacrifice of one’s own needs in order to help others. When these clients pay attention to their own needs, they often feel guilty. To avoid this guilt, they put others’ needs ahead of their own. Often clients who self-sacrifice gain a feeling of increased self-esteem or a sense of meaning from helping others. In childhood the person may have been made to feel overly responsible for the well being of one or both parents.
  12. Emotional Inhibition: This schema refers to the belief that you must suppress spontaneous emotions and impulses, especially anger, because any expression of feelings would harm others or lead to loss of self-esteem, embarrassment, retaliation or abandonment. You may lack spontaneity, or be viewed as uptight. This schema is often brought on by parents who discourage the expression of feelings.
  13. Unrelenting Standards/Hypercriticalness: This schema refers to the belief that whatever you do is not good enough, that you must always strive harder. The motivation for this belief is the desire to meet extremely high internal demands for competence, usually to avoid internal criticism. People with this schema show impairments in important life areas, such as health, pleasure or self- esteem. Usually these clients’ parents were never satisfied and gave their children love that was conditional on outstanding achievement.
  14. Entitlement/Grandiosity: This schema refers to the belief that you should be able to do, say, or have whatever you want immediately regardless of whether that hurts others or seems reasonable to them. You are not interested in what other people need, nor are you aware of the long- term costs to you of alienating others. Parents who overindulge their children and who do not set limits about what is socially appropriate may foster the development of this schema. Alternatively, some children develop this schema to compensate for feelings of emotional deprivation or defectiveness. Positive schema to enhance would be empathy and compassion for others.
  15. Insufficient Self-Control/Self-Discipline: This schema refers to the inability to tolerate any frustration in reaching one’s goals, as well as an inability to restrain expression of one’s impulses or feelings. When lack of self-control is extreme, criminal or addictive behavior rule your life. Parents who did not model self-control, or who did not adequately discipline their children, may predispose them to have this schema as adults.
  16. Approval-Seeking/Recognition-Seeking: This schema refers to the placing of too much emphasis on gaining the approval and recognition of others at the expense of one’s genuine needs and sense of self. It can also include excessive emphasis on status and appearance as a means of gaining recognition and approval. Clients with this schema are generally extremely sensitive to rejections by others and try hard to fit in. Usually they did not have their needs for unconditional love and acceptance met by their parents in their early years.
  17. Negativity/Pessimism: This schema refers to a pervasive pattern of focusing on the negative aspects of life while minimizing the positive aspects. Clients with this schema are unable to enjoy things that are going well in their lives because they are so concerned with negative details or potential future problems. They worry about possible failures no matter how well things are going for them. Usually these clients had a parent who worried excessively.
  18. Punitiveness: This schema refers to the belief that people deserve to be harshly punished for making mistakes. People with this schema are critical and unforgiving of themselves and/or others. They tend to be angry about imperfect behaviors much of the time. In childhood these clients usually had at least one parent who put too much emphasis on performance and had a punitive style of controlling behavior.

At the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley, we have an in-depth interview process and series of questionnaires that can help us identify your primary schemas.

About the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley

The Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley offers Schema Therapy for chronic and long standing problems and patterns. With our convenient location just a 1/2 mile from Highway 85 and the Saratoga Avenue exit, we serve the Silicon Valley communities of San Jose, Saratoga, Mountain View, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Los Gatos, Los Altos, Palo Alto, Cupertino and Campbell, CA. Contact us at (408) 384-8404 or send an email for more information on how we can help you with long term schema change.

OCPD vs. OCD: What’s the Difference?

What is Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD)?

OCPDObsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) is a type of “personality disorder” with these characteristics:

  • Rigid adherence to rules and regulations
  • An overwhelming need for order
  • Unwillingness to yield or give responsibilities to others
  • A sense of righteousness about the way things “should be done”

What are the symptoms of Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD)?

  • Excessive devotion to work that impairs social and family activities
  • Excessive fixation with lists, rules and minor details
  • Perfectionism that interferes with finishing tasks
  • Rigid following of moral and ethical codes
  • Unwillingness to assign tasks unless others perform exactly as asked
  • Lack of generosity; extreme frugality without reason
  • Hoarding behaviors

What is the difference between Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

  • People with OCD have insight, meaning they are aware that their unwanted thoughts are unreasonable. People with OCPD think their way is the “right and best way” and usually feel comfortable with such self-imposed systems of rules.
  • The thoughts, behaviors and feared consequences common to OCD are typically not relevant to real-life concerns; people with OCPD are fixated with following procedures to manage daily tasks.
  • Often OCD interferes in several areas in the person’s life including work, social and/or family life. OCPD usually interferes with interpersonal relationships, but makes work functioning more efficient. It is not the job itself that is hurt by OCPD traits, but the relationships with co-workers, or even employers can be strained.
  • Typically, people with OCPD don’t believe they require treatment. They believe that if everyone else conformed to their strict rules, things would be fine. The threat of losing a job or a relationship due to interpersonal conflict may be the motivator for therapy. This is in contrast to people with OCD who feel tortured by their unwanted thoughts and rituals, and are more aware of the unreasonable demands that the symptoms place on others, often feeling guilty because of this.
  • Family members of people with OCPD often feel extremely criticized and controlled by people with OCPD. Similar to living with someone with OCD, being ruled under OCPD demands can be very frustrating and upsetting, often leading to conflict.

What causes Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD)?

There is no single, specific “cause” identified. Several theories suggest that people with OCPD may have been raised by parents who were unavailable and either overly controlling or overly protective. Also, as children they may have been harshly punished. The OCPD traits may have developed as a sort of coping mechanism to avoid punishment, in an effort to be “perfect” and obedient.

Therapy for Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD)

The goal of therapy is to lessen rigid expectations and learn how to value close relationships, recreation, and fun with less emphasis on work and productivity. Therapy can lead to greater insight into how someone’s OCPD symptoms affect others. It often takes the threat of the loss of a relationship or job to motivate people with OCPD seek treatment because they typically don’t think there is anything “wrong” with the way they are. If motivated to change, cognitive behavior therapy, particularly schema therapy, holds much promise.

Getting Help for Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD)

The Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley specializes in long term personality change using CBT and schema therapy. With our convenient location just a 1/2 mile from highways 85 and the Saratoga Avenue exit, we serve the Silicon Valley communities of San Jose, Saratoga, Mountain View, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Los Gatos, Los Altos, Palo Alto, Cupertino and Campbell, CA. Contact us at (408) 384-8404 for more information on how we can help you overcome the rigid patterns related to an obsessive compulsive personality.

What Does an Expert CBT Therapist Do?

expert cognitive behavior therapist

Commit. Practice. Succeed.

Many therapists integrate cognitive-behavioral techniques into their therapy approach. However, there are 11 skills that therapists who are experts in CBT try to practice in nearly every session. The list below is from the certification criteria of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. In order to get certified, therapists must submit an audio tape of a complete session demonstrating competence in all 11 skills. I went a step beyond this and completed the Beck Institute’s full year extramural program where I submitted 46 audiotapes over the year and rated and reviewed each tape with my Beck Institute supervisor. What an amazing experience!

Expert CBT Therapist Skills

1. AGENDA
Your therapist works with you to set an appropriate agenda with target problems, suitable for the available time. Your therapist establishes priorities and follows the agenda. If time is running out, your therapist checks in with you to make sure you want to continue with the current agenda item or move on to the next one.

2. FEEDBACK
Your therapist is adept at eliciting and responding to verbal and non-verbal feedback throughout the session (e.g., elicited reactions to session, regularly checked for understanding, helped summarize main points at end of session).

3. UNDERSTANDING
Your therapist attempts to understand your “internal reality” and is skilled at communicating this understanding to you. Your therapist has excellent listening and empathic skills.

4. INTERPERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
Your therapist displays optimal levels of warmth, concern, confidence, genuineness, and professionalism.

5. COLLABORATION
Collaboration is excellent. Your therapist encourages you as much as possible to take an active role during the session so you and your therapist can function as a “team.”

6. PACING AND EFFICIENT USE OF TIME
Your therapist used time efficiently by tactfully limiting peripheral and unproductive discussion and by pacing the sessions as rapidly as is appropriate for you.

7. GUIDED DISCOVERY
Your therapist is skillful at using guided discovery during the session to explore problems and help you draw your own conclusions. Your therapist achieves an excellent balance between skillful questioning and other modes of inquiry.

8. FOCUSING ON KEY COGNITIONS OR BEHAVIORS
Your therapist very skillfully focuses on key thoughts, assumptions, behaviors, etc. that are most relevant to the problem area and offers considerable promise for progress.

9. STRATEGY FOR CHANGE
Your therapist follows a consistent strategy for change that seems very promising and incorporates the most appropriate cognitive-behavioral techniques.

10. APPLICATION OF COGNITIVE-BEHAVIORAL TECHNIQUES
Your therapist very skillfully and resourcefully employs cognitive-behavioral techniques.

11. HOMEWORK
Your therapist reviews previous homework and carefully assigns homework for the coming week. Homework assignments are “custom tailored” to help you incorporate new perspectives, test hypotheses, experiment with new behaviors discussed during session, etc.

How To Find an Expert CBT Therapist

The Academy of Cognitive Therapy has an online list of therapists who are certified. You still need to screen the therapists to make sure they are still following the evidence-based CBT model and incorporating the CBT therapist skills. Many therapists get certified and then drift away from the structure and principles of CBT.

Here at the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley, we practice what we preach. If you are interested in getting help for anxiety or OCD with evidence-based CBT, contact us at (408) 384-8404 or send us an email.

10 Ways to Manage Anxiety, Worry and Stress

Anxiety GirlAnxiety is Sneaky

You’re doing fine, and then suddenly you feel like you can’t breathe. Maybe your chest hurts, and you’re convinced you’re having a heart attack. Maybe something happened, like your car won’t start or you heard layoffs might be coming at your company. Or maybe you can’t pinpoint why you are feeling like you are – you woke up in the middle of the night sweating and with a feeling of dread.

You are probably having an anxiety attack — an extreme reaction to stress. Even if you aren’t having a full-blown panic attack, anxiety can leave you feeling apprehensive, uncertain and fearful, paralyzing you with indecision and avoidance.

What is Anxiety?

It’s normal to feel anxious when facing a challenging situation. However, if your worries and fears seem overwhelming and out of proportion with what’s happening and interfere with your daily life, you may be suffering from an anxiety disorder. Common symptoms of anxiety include a surge of overwhelming panic, feelings of losing control or going crazy, a racing heart, heart palpitations or chest pain, feeling like you’re going to pass out, trouble breathing or hyperventilation, trembling or shaking and nausea or stomach cramps. If you have chronic anxiety, you may feel like you are living with constant feelings of apprehension or dread, have trouble concentrating, feel tense or irritable a lot of the time and tend to anticipate the worst.

Anxiety disorders are the most common mental health problems affecting children and adults. According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, an estimated 40 million adults (18% of the U.S. population)  suffer from anxiety disorders. Only about one-third of those suffering from an anxiety disorder receive treatment, even though anxiety disorders are highly treatable. Below are some steps you can take yourself to manage your anxiety.

10 Steps to Reduce Anxiety, Worry and Stress

1. Get Active. Ride your bike, take a walk, go to a yoga class or go to the gym. There’s no better therapy to reduce the physical sensations of an anxiety attack than to get your blood pumping and endorphins moving through your body with exercise.

2. Cut out all caffeine. Caffeine adds to that tense, jittery, anxious feeling. Sources of caffeine include chocolate, beverages like coffee, tea, soda, and some prescription and over-the-counter medications, like Excedrin.

3. Avoid stressful conversations when you’re tired, overwhelmed, or stressed. For instance, tell your kids that you’re simply not available for problem solving after 8 p.m. Try to protect a “trouble free” time, especially before bed, when you don’t address difficulties but focus instead on pure relaxation.

4. Get sleep. Buy a white-noise machine and use it when you go to sleep. The soothing sound will help you fall and stay asleep. A good night’s sleep is critical when you’re stressed, since sleep deprivation fuels anxiety even as anxiety leads to sleep deprivation.

5. Write about one thing that is making you anxious. Sit down and write out all the fears you have about that one thing. If it’s money, write down what would happen if you lose your job and can’t pay your bills. What is the absolute worst thing that could happen? Now look at each item and mark it on a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being highly unlikely it would ever happen, 10 being likely that it would happen. You’ll be surprised at how few items rank above a 5. This understanding should help reduce your anxiety. If something does rank higher than 5, you may want to develop a coping plan for it. Nothing works better to calm anxiety than turning from pure worry to an action plan.

6. Practice mindfulness meditation. Relax your body from the toes up. Follow your breath as you observe and detach from your thoughts. Center yourself in the moment (e.g., feel your head upon the pillow, or your feet on the ground, etc.). When your mind wanders, don’t judge it. Simply bring your attention back to your breath.

7. Don’t focus on future problems. Many people get into a cycle of predicting and worrying about future concerns. Ask yourself, “Is this something that could actually happen and, if so, can I do something about it right now?” If the answer to either of these questions is no, tell yourself you will focus on it later. Keep a journal of what makes you anxious. Then revisit these same items when you’re feeling calm and develop plans to deal with them.

8. Experience your anxiety for 45 minutes. That’s usually all it takes for you to become used to it and for the anxious feeling to dissipate. The worst thing you can do is try to ignore your feelings because anxiety tends to fight back if you push it down.

9. Talk to yourself. Remind yourself of how you handled similar situations in the past, your strengths, and how long you will need to get through it. Show yourself that this anxiety is manageable and time-limited.

10. Get busy. Go to the museum, see a movie, read a good book, or take up oil painting (or some other hobby). Rent a comedy and watch it. Let yourself laugh out loud. The act of laughter stimulates endorphins that help blow stress hormones out of your system the way a good thunderstorm can blow away hot, humid weather.

How To Get Help for Your Anxiety

The Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley specializes in anxiety, worry and stress in adults, children and teenagers. With our convenient location just a 1/2 mile from highways 85 and the Saratoga Avenue exit, we serve the Silicon Valley communities of San Jose, Saratoga, Mountain View, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Los Gatos, Los Altos, Palo Alto, Cupertino and Campbell, CA. Contact us at (408) 384-8404 for more information on how we can help you overcome anxiety, worry and stress.

Parents: Is Your Child Gifted?

Gifted GirlHow Can You Tell If Your Child is Gifted?

The process of identifying gifted and talented children is a very complex and highly controversial topic. Much of the available literature focuses on the recognition and identification of intellectually and/or academically gifted children. Schools that have programs for gifted students are often able to identify gifted kids by using traditional screening methods like group IQ tests, review of achievement test scores and past grades, observation, and getting input from teachers and parents. Typically, children identified as intellectually and academically gifted must score at, or above, a specified cutoff score to qualify for educational programming provided by school districts and private organizations. Some school districts also use portfolios and other non-traditional assessments to help identify gifted students, but this varies among states and school districts.

Gifted Children Differ in their Giftedness

Even if you child doesn’t score high enough on intellectual or academic achievement tests, there are many forms of giftedness. If you can answer yes to any of the questions below, your child might be gifted in that particular domain.

  • Did your child begin reading before the first day of preschool?
  • Is your child extremely talented in the visual and performing arts?
  • Does your child exhibit an in depth understanding of math and science?
  • Is your child a highly talented swimmer, golfer, or basketball player?
  • Does your child display superb public speaking and leadership skills?

Signs Your Child Might Be Gifted

There are no universally accepted traits that you can look for and no definitive signs that will tell you for sure whether your child is gifted. However, many gifted children share some common characteristics, and knowing these is a good place to start.

Language Skills
While most children are able to form recognizable sentences and understand complex language by about two years of age, gifted children often reach these milestones earlier. As they approach school age, other language skills may appear advanced or sophisticated.

Some of the traits of giftedness to look for when considering your child’s language development in relation to others of a similar age include:

  • A highly developed vocabulary and the ability to learn new words easily.
  • The tendency to speak quickly.
  • The early use of longer, more complex sentences while using appropriate grammar.
  • Early reading, if given some instruction and opportunity. Many gifted children have already learned how to read before entering school.
  • Continually asking questions about what they see and hear, and wanting to receive thorough responses and explanations.
  • The ability to understand and carry out multi-step directions at an early age. (e.g., Go to the dining room, get the blue book on the table and put it back on the shelf in your room, then bring me the clothes on your bed so I can wash them).
  • The ability to understand and participate in adult conversations. Gifted children often pick up nuances or double meanings early on – so watch what you say!
  • The ability to change the language they use when speaking to different audiences. For example, a four-year-old gifted child might use more advanced words and sentence structure when speaking to adults or older children, and then talk in a simpler, more childlike way when addressing his three-year-old cousin.

Learning Abilities

Gifted BoyAll children (all people really, big and small) have an inborn desire to learn about the world around them – to seek out new experiences, figure out the relationship between themselves and their surroundings, to discover, and to learn. What distinguishes gifted children from others is the apparent natural ease and joy with which they go about doing this. Their brains appear to be mental sponges, effortlessly absorbing and incorporating new information and ideas.

Many gifted children are natural learners who show some of the following characteristics:

  • The ability to learn quickly and efficiently – to pick up ideas and skills effortlessly.
  • A tendency to become highly focused on certain areas of interest (e.g., bugs, space, animals) and independently seek out information on these topics.
  • The ability to ask questions that show advanced insight or understanding.
  • A deep fund of knowledge – they know more about the world around them than you would expect.
  • Excellent memory and easy recall of what they previously heard, saw, or learned.
  • A tendency to read often on their own and to frequently prefer reading to more physical activities.
  • Little need for direction or instruction when beginning a new activity, learning a new game, or acquiring a new skill. They may also insist on doing things on their own, or in their own way.
  • Early development of motor skills involving balance, coordination, and movement. Gifted children may also be advanced in some purposeful fine-motor activities such as assembling small objects (e.g., legos, transforming toys, blocks) or putting puzzles together. However, other fine motor skills may not be advanced. Some gifted children are poor at handwriting – although this may be more related to a lack of attention to detail or impatience with the slow and tedious task of handwriting practice than to problems with fine motor control.
  • Pleasure in talking to older children and adults about topics that interest them.
  • An understanding of their own thinking and learning processes. They may have preferred ways of learning and resist using other methods suggested by a teacher or adult. They are able to sense how much and what kind of studying they need in order to master a skill or topic.
  • Creative thinking. Gifted children may enjoy coming up with their own ways to solve problems and take delight in complexity and making connections between seemingly unrelated ideas or concepts.
  • The ability to concentrate on a topic of interest for an unusually long period of time. However, gifted children may quickly shift their attention or appear unfocused when doing something they perceive as unchallenging or uninteresting.
  • An inclination to see learning as fun. They take joy in discovering new interests or grasping new concepts.

Emotional and Behavioral Traits

Gifted children are often more emotionally intense than others. They can also be more sensitive to others’ feelings and circumstances and may display a great deal of empathy in situations where others their age appear indifferent.

Other emotional or behavioral traits to look for include:

  • A high activity level. Gifted children can appear to have an endless source of energy – constantly moving, talking, asking and exploring.
  • The tendency to think and talk fast. Because they may be trying to speak as quickly as they think, gifted children are often asked to “slow down” so the listener can understand them. They can also become frustrated when they feel that others are talking too slowly, or taking too long to “get to the point.”
  • Strong leadership qualities. Gifted kids often make natural leaders who take charge and lead others in new directions.
  • Ability to relate to older kids and adults. Because their cognitive skills and interests can be advanced for their years, gifted kids have an easier time connecting with and learning from those older than themselves.
  • Enjoyment of alone time. While gifted children may enjoy spending time with others, including mental mates (whether their own age or adults), they can also enjoy spending time on more solitary activities such as reading, writing, daydreaming, observing, or just thinking.
  • Appreciation of natural beauty and art. Gifted children may particularly enjoy being around and pointing out trees, sunsets, flowers, the ocean, animals, and other things of inherent beauty. They can also show a deep interest in certain forms of art – paintings, sculptures, or music, for example.

Hidden Gifts

Some gifted children show only a few of the signs listed above, or show traits that are quite the opposite of what you’d expect. For example, some will start to speak late rather than early, some will be emotionally reserved rather than intense, and some appear to think and speak slowly rather than quickly.

Also keep in mind that there are children who show gifted qualities when it comes to language or emotional traits, but who do not appear exceptional when it comes to learning or academics. While some of these kids may have a specific learning disability getting in the way of their performance at school, others may have learned early on to hide their abilities in order to better fit in with others their age, or to avoid the pressures of higher expectations. And of course there are children who show many of the signs here who do not measure in the gifted range once they are tested. Does that mean they are not gifted? Not necessarily. Many kids don’t shine on IQ tests due to test anxiety – or sometimes because of the very qualities associated with giftedness. For example, IQ tests typically have timed subtests, meaning that the faster a child responds or correctly completes a task, the more points she earns. However, gifted children who are perfectionists may respond more slowly than others, taking their time, working carefully and methodically, and checking their responses for accuracy. A gifted child with a high energy level who has a hard time focusing attention on structured tasks may also be at a disadvantage when it comes to performing in the rigidly structured atmosphere of an IQ test.

In addition, children can be gifted in one area (verbal skills, for example) but show only average ability in others (such as perceptual or nonverbal reasoning skills, which are important for math achievement). While these children’s full-scale IQ score might not measure in the gifted range, they may still demonstrate some common traits of giftedness. For example, a verbally gifted child with average nonverbal reasoning skills may still be emotionally sensitive and have an excellent memory.

Identifying giftedness can be tricky, particularly regarding those who test right around that “magic” cutoff point of 130 or so. And IQ tests are certainly imperfect instruments and only one piece of the puzzle. Your insight and instincts, along with those of your child’s teachers, can often be the most important pieces needed to truly understand your child’s unique gifts and potential.

Do You or a Loved One Have OCD?

OCD Quiz: Do You Have Symptoms of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder?

Woman with OCDThe following questionnaire will help you identify the types of problems and symptoms that most trouble you. Don’t be surprised if you check more than one item in several groups. Many people have more than one type of OCD symptoms. In addition, OCD can appear in many different forms so it is possible that your particular symptoms are not on this list.

Typical OCD Symptoms

What symptoms bothered you? Note how much each item bothered you or interfered with your life in the last month. If you avoided things due to these symptoms, take that into account in your rating. Rate them as follows:

0 = Did not bother me at all /no avoidance due to symptoms / did not interfere with my life

1 = Bothered me a little / some avoidance due to symptoms / interfered with my life a little

2 = Bothered me a moderate amount / avoided several things due to symptoms / interfered with my life quite a bit

3 = Bothered me a lot / avoided many things  due to symptoms / significant interference with my life

Washing and Cleaning
___ 1. I avoid touching certain things because of possible contamination.
___ 2. I have difficulty picking up items that have dropped on the floor.
___ 3. I clean my household excessively.
___ 4. I wash my hands excessively.
___ 5. I often take extremely long showers or baths.
___ 6. I’m overly concerned with germs and diseases.

Checking and Repeating
___ 1. I frequently have to check things over and over again.
___ 2. I have difficulty finishing things because I repeat actions.
___ 3. I often repeat actions in order to prevent something bad from happening.
___ 4. I worry excessively about making mistakes.
___ 5. I worry excessively that someone will get harmed because of me.
___ 6. Certain thoughts that come into my mind make me do things over and over again.

Ordering Rituals
___ 1. I must have certain things around me set in a specific order.
___ 2. I spend much time making sure that things are in the right place.
___ 3. I notice immediately when my things are out of place.
___ 4. It is important that my bed is straightened out impeccably.
___ 5. I need to arrange certain things in special patterns.
___ 6. When my things are rearranged by other people, I get extremely upset.

Thinking Rituals
___ 1. Repeating certain words or numbers in my head makes me feel good.
___ 2. I often have to say certain things to myself again and again in order to feel safe.
___ 3. I find myself spending a lot of time praying for non-religious purposes.
___ 4. “Bad” thoughts force me to think about “good” thoughts.
___ 5. I try to remember events in detail or make mental lists to prevent unpleasant consequences.
___ 6. The only way I can stay calm at times is by thinking the “right” things.

Worries and Obsessions
___ 1. I often get upset by unpleasant thoughts that come into my mind against my will.
___ 2. I usually have doubts about the simple everyday things I do.
___ 3. I have no control over my thoughts.
___ 4. Frequently the things that pop into my mind are shameful, frightening, violent, or bizarre.
___ 5. I’m afraid that my bad thoughts will come true.
___ 6. When I start to worry, I cannot easily stop.
___ 7. Little, insignificant events make me worry excessively.

Time Spent on OCD Symptoms

The amount of time you spend on your symptoms is another indication of how much it intrudes in your life. In the past month, how much time have you spent, on an average day, engaged in these symptoms.

Hours/Minutes
________ Washing and Cleaning
________ Checking and Repeating
________ Ordering
________ Thinking Rituals
________ Worrying or Obsessing
________ Total Hours (on an average day)

When to Get Help for OCD

If you find that some symptoms bother you a lot or you are spending more than one hour per day on your symptoms, then you might have a clinical level of OCD. You should see a mental health therapist for an evaluation and possible treatment. The earlier you get help, the better as repeating rituals frequently increases anxiety and OCD.

Where to Get Help for OCD

The Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley specializes in obsessive compulsive disorders in adults, children and teenagers. With our convenient location just a 1/2 mile from highways 85 and the Saratoga Avenue exit, we serve the Silicon Valley communities of San Jose, Saratoga, Mountain View, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Los Gatos, Los Altos, Palo Alto, Cupertino and Campbell, CA. Contact us at (408) 384-8404 for more information on how we can help you overcome your OCD symptoms.

Source: This OCD Quiz was modified from the questionnaire appearing on anxieties.com.

Resilience: The Art of Bouncing Back

Definition of Resilience: the ability to become strong, healthy, or successful again after something bad happens

 

What is Resilience?

Bounce BackResilience is the process of adapting positively in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems,  health problems or workplace and financial stressors. It means “bouncing back” from difficult experiences.

Being resilient does not mean that you don’t experience difficulty or distress. Emotional pain and sadness are common if you have suffered a major adversity or trauma in your life. In fact, the road to resilience is likely to involve considerable emotional distress. Many people suffer adverse events and have come out stronger as a result but that can be hard to see when you are in the midst of suffering.

Factors in Resilience

Resilience is not a trait that you either have or do not have. It involves behaviors, thoughts and actions that can be learned and developed in anyone. A combination of factors contributes to resilience. Many studies show that the primary factor in resilience is having caring and supportive relationships within and outside the family. Relationships that create love and trust, provide role models and offer encouragement and reassurance help bolster a person’s resilience. Several additional factors are associated with resilience:

  • A positive view of yourself and confidence in your strengths and abilities.
  • The capacity to make realistic plans and take steps to carry them out.
  • Skills in communication and problem solving.
  • The capacity to manage strong feelings and impulses.

Bouncing Back from Failure7 ways to build resilience

  1. Connect with others. Form good relationships with close family members, friends and others. Accept help and support from those who care about you and will listen to you. Being active in community groups and church, temple or synagogue and volunteering to help other less fortunate can provide social support and help you with reclaiming hope.
  2. Take care of yourself. Pay attention to your own needs and feelings. Engage in activities you enjoy and find relaxing. Exercise regularly. Develop confidence in your ability to solve problems and trust your instincts. Taking care of yourself helps to keep your mind and body primed to deal with situations that require resilience.
  3. Keep things in perspective. Even when facing very painful events, try to consider the stressful situation in a broader context and keep a long-term perspective. Avoid blowing the event out of proportion and seeing crises as insurmountable problems. You can’t change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but you can change how you interpret and respond to these events.
  4. Move toward your goals. Develop some realistic goals. Do something regularly — even if it seems like a small accomplishment — that enables you to move toward your goals. Accept circumstances that cannot be changed and focus on situations you can alter. Instead of focusing on tasks that seem unachievable, ask yourself, “What’s one thing I know I can accomplish today that helps me move in the direction I want to go?”
  5. Take positive, decisive actions. You probably have more influence that you think. Take action in the face of negative situations as much as you can, rather than detaching completely from problems and stresses and wishing they would just go away.
  6. Find opportunities for growth. People often learn something about themselves and may find that they have grown in some respect as a result of their struggle with loss. Many people who have experienced tragedies and hardship have reported better relationships, greater sense of strength even while feeling vulnerable, increased sense of self-worth, a more developed spirituality and heightened appreciation for life.
  7. Maintain a hopeful outlook. An optimistic outlook enables you to expect that good things will happen in your life. Try visualizing what you want, rather than worrying about what you fear. Try looking beyond the present to how future circumstances may be a little better. Note any subtle ways in which you might already feel somewhat better as you deal with difficult situations.

Get Started with Building your Resilience Muscle

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from tough situations and to avoid becoming a victim of helplessness. Being resilient can help you manage stress, lower your chances of depression, and it has even been proven to help people live longer. You may feel like you’ve had so much bad luck that it’s impossible to come out strong. Once you learn to seize your life by the reins and prepare for the unexpected, you’ll be on your way to being a more resilient person — and to living a happier, more purpose-filled life as a result. Use the steps above to get started.

 

Evidence-Based CBT or Dim Sum?

The New York Times recently published an article that examines the difference between evidence-based CBT and what they call the “dim sum” approach, which is the eclectic approach many therapists use when they integrate strategies from a variety of different types of therapies. Here’s a quote from the article:

“CBT refers to a number of structured, directive types of psychotherapy that focus on the thoughts behind a patient’s feelings and that often include exposure therapy and other activities. Instead, many patients are subjected to a kind of dim-sum approach — a little of this, a little of that, much of it derived more from the therapist’s biases and training than from the latest research findings. And even professionals who claim to use evidence-based treatments rarely do.”

Read the full article here: Looking for Evidence that Therapy Works New York Times 3-25-13

So, how do you know if your therapist is really practicing evidence-based CBT? Here are some ways to know the difference:

  • Is your therapist goal-oriented or does he/she focus on issues that seem unrelated to your problem(s)?
  • Does your therapist track your mood and other relevant factors to see if you are improving?
  • Does your therapist work with you to develop a cognitive-behavioral formulation of your problem(s)?
  • Do you understand the factors that are maintaining your problem(s) and do you and your therapist have a treatment plan to impact those factors?
  • Has your therapist read the treatment manuals for your particular problem?
  • Does your therapist regularly assign homework and follow up on it?
  • Is your therapist active and collaborative during the session or does he/she mainly listen?
  • Does your therapist regularly use CBT techniques such as teaching you how to examine your thinking patterns and helping you engage in behavioral experiments and exposures?
  • Is your therapist compassionate and attentive yet directive and solution-focused?

Your therapist may not do all of the above every time but you should be able to answer yes to the majority of the above questions most of the time.

About the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley

The mission of the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Silicon Valley is to offer evidence-based therapy for adults, children and teenagers with anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder and eating disorders. The Center’s primary focus is on the evidence-based treatment of anxiety and related disorders because there are subtle differences in how each disorder should be treated. While many therapists work with anxiety disorders, the cognitive and behavioral approaches used at the CBT Center require extensive continuing education in the specific conceptualization for each person and evidence-based strategies for each disorder.

Laura Johnson, Center Director and Certified Cognitive Therapist, started the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center because there is a lack of therapists in the South Bay who are trained to deliver evidence-based cognitive-behavioral treatments for anxiety, OCD and eating disorders. Currently, we have several therapists at the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center. All therapists at the Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center are employees of the Center and receive extensive training in CBT and other evidence-based therapies. This ensures that you will receive high quality CBT no matter which therapist you see at our Center.